i been in a relationship since july 25,2008. she is still a VIRGIN and she has came over 2 times. we sit down and while the movie plays we playfight and we bite each other on the lip and she even hits me on my nuts lol, shes really shy about her body parts meaning she wont let me touch even if i accidently try. i know sex is a big part of a relationship to build rapport and confort and also letting her into my life, i try not act needy about the sex, but my question is, how do i move her into wanting to have sex with me? is it too early? .

so youve been dating for about a week then? for a virgin its probably going to take more time and comfort building but work on the kino escalation

but thanks, and i think the kino part...hmm.. we been laying down on top of each other in bed but nothing after that, once she grabbed my hand when i touched her boob, i know that time it was my fault i escalated too quickly and i didnt look like i knew what i was doing (i was looking where i was touching) . anyways. big thanks man, thumb fighting, body Mocking and salsa Spins are going to get me there, they got me where i wanted before.

Dude if shes like that about her body parts fuckin go caveman on her

Most girls wont admit it but they like the rough stuff...

Grab her by her hair in a playful sexy manner

Kinda concentrate on the things that dont seem as much sexual as the others even though they hit the same spark

Did you READ his post? She's a fucking virgin, she's shy and she needs to be taken slowly and escalated, not jumped on like a piece of meat.

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You think i dont know that? I didnt say throw her against the wall and start kissing her

Grabbing the hair doesnt even mean you have to kiss but it sends that "shockwave" through her body and it looks like you didnt even try hard to

Seriously man its really not that bad ive dealt with plenty of virgins most of the time they just dont wanna lose it to someone they dont care about unless they are saving it for marriage

K, then you shouldn't have told him to go caveman, because that's what that means basically. Caveman style is when you just GO and you PUSH and you escalate hard and fast.

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Oh no for sure man i meant with the hair pulling aspect of it not goin all out i know that would get you a big slap in the face and a one way ticket home

Ok, so in the future, try to be more specific in what you mean when giving advice to guys, or you can easily lead them in the wrong direction and screw up their relationships, which can be serious business. Like I said, the mere fact that you advised him to go caveman is the complete opposite what what he should be doing.

Hair pulling done properly will definitely ramp up the sexual vibe, but rapport must be high first and she needs to be comfortable for this. When you get on the bed and you're kissing, don't jump the guy and start to roam her body right away, keep it to just kissing for a while, with an hand on the side of her face/back of her head, run it down her arm and leg (if she's wearing pants, otherwise, stay above the hem if it's a skirt or dress). Once you've been doing this for a while, you plant a couple light kisses on her neck and shoulders, then back to her lips, then after a bit do a gentle bite on her neck, then back to lips, gently bite and pull her lower lip through your teeth, suck her tongue, get her to suck yours and return the lip biting. This will really escalate the sexual tension, then you can get a BIT more free with your hands, but make sure to pay attention to her reactions and don't give her the chance to make you back off, make sure you're always one step ahead, otherwise you risk losing ground.

Now this is all good for physical stuff, but due to her being a virgin, you're gonna have to make the emotional connection, so work on that and don't assume that if you do the right stuff physically, that it will work regardless.

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haha, some funny responses!! esp khaos!

how old is she mate? will prob make a difference!

i was seeing a 20 year old virgin..

- I made sure we spend loadsa time kissing

- Kept my hand on her leg n thigh, no further.

- Told her she turned me on n i wanted her.

- Set up a date at mine where she was gonna stay over so it seemed almost inevitable...

so yeah... that worked for me!

BUT!!!!!

DONT FUCK WITH A VIRGIN!

THEY GET REEAALLY ATTACTED - IF YOU SO THE SLIGHTEST THING TO 'HURT THEIR FEELINGS' THEY GO PYSCHO!! TRUST ME..

repetition builds comfort and even better it'll bypass the circuit in her head that makes her shy.

How old is she, that plays a big role in this question.

Anyway, it will likely take a while, just build up comfort, whenn she trusts you, she is ready.

And my 5 cents on virgins. If you are not planing to stick with her, just skip it. She will likely get attached and it will take you a long time teaching her how things are done. Remember, for her the slowest and most boring missionary is something new and exciting. Nobody is a natural in sex, that's just bs you tell virgins to motivate them to try harder, so if you want some quality sex, go for somebody with experience.

Sorry, didn't read all posts (limited time SPAM).

Quick response:
you could touch somewhere, and move your touch PAST another zone (i.e. breast). Since you are MOVING it, she can't object (unless she's SUPER shy).

Couldnt signs of not-allowing-sex-stuff be an IOD? As in that she withdraws sex to check if the male is a provider-type.

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i work my ass off the whole week and i only get to see her wednesday night and thursday. yesterday was wednesday, i didnt see her. today is thursday, do you know where she is? > AT THE BEACH HANGING OUT WITH HER EX BOYFRIEND AND SOME OTHER GUYS. SHE IS ONLY 17.


I TOLD MY FRIEND/WING MOZART THAT THE ONLY REASON I ACCIDENTLY SLOWED DOWN MY SARGING WAS TO SPEND TIME WITH HER.

FUCK THAT, IM GOING BACK TO FUCK IT LAND, I DONT HAVE TIME TO DEAL WITH VIRGINITY SHIT IM NOT 9 ANYMORE.

and hanging with your ex's .... is that even fair?
okay guys sorry i know you guys were thinking you lost an upcoming pua because he got into a relationship. fuck that i will soon stack up my openers and routines not word by word and im off TO SEE THE WIZARD =D ohh.. and thanks for all the physical explaining guys and im smart enough to NOT GO CAVEMAN, i dont want to go to jail for rape charges lol.
my ex just txted me, she's coming over friday, she knows the routine =]]]