Japan Sarge Report/ Advice Inquiry

Last Sunday I went to a private party organized by a female friend of mine, Aya.

Aya is an extremely funny, outgoing chick with a really cute personality, but she is 32, divorced with two kids, a bit chubby...a 5 (She could pull off a 5.5 or 6 in America). I'm not interested in her, but she is interested in me.

Aya is the main organizer of a “ladies group called Tiara”. A couple of times a month 25 to 50 of these ladies get together and have dinner, then they have an after party where men are allowed to come. These types of groups and events are popular in Japan, a perfect place to work on your game.

Anyway, like I was saying Aya is a really cool chick, but below my standards. However, about a month in a half ago I ran into here at a different event where I was really drunk and bored and made out with her. That night we bar hopped twice and I ended up taking home one of her friends. (I doubt she knows about me sleeping with her friend).

Back to the party last Sunday. They were hosting a private party in a new swanky lounge/club called Roots. It was semi-formal, most ladies in dresses men in shirt and jackets. I show up with a mutual friend of Aya's, who is another American and local bar owner, he's smooth, plenty of social proof, but not into the "game" from a methodical approach. So Aya greets us at the door. Instantly I interlock arms with her and waltz into the party with a huge smile, chest sticking out, and being one of the two only non-Japanese people in the party I was peacocking, definitely in game time mode. I know that everybody knows Aya and she is popular, so if I am gaining social proof by hanging out with her, dancing with her and having her introduce me to people. In my AfC days I would have been worried about spending too much time at a party with a girl that I thought was unattractive, but I was making it work for me.

I sarged a lot girls, exchanged numbers with 4 different ladies and choose a target. Rie was maybe the 3rd hottest chick in the party, a solid HB 8. Great figure, nice face and her attitude was extremely flirty and sexy. Every guy with confidence was hitting on her. I was introduced to her by Aya.

People don't shake hands in Japan and definitely don’t greet with a kiss. So to take ladies off balance, I hold my hand out like a hand shake and when they grab hold of it, I move it up in front of their face an stare at her as I waiting for her to kiss the back of my hand, aristocrat style. If they do it I reward them my returning a kiss to their hand and tell them how sophisticated they are. If they don't kiss it, then I tell they how unsophisticated they are. Of course I do this in a playful way with a big smile on my face. It allows me to open with a kino or set up a neg.

Rie kissed my hand and I complemented her sophistication, however I knew she was on a very high hoarse because she was being hit on so much. So when I returned the hand kiss, I checked her nails and said, "Nice nails, but their fake right". That seemed to bring her down to my level instantly.

We talked for a while. In Japan they always ask you the same questions: "Where are you from? How long have you lived in Japan? Wow, I can't believe you can speak Japanese so well."Where are do you work" blah, blah, blah

I found that not answering these questions straight forwardly works best and keep the conversation playful?

HB: "What country are you from?"
You: "Where are you from China or Korea?"
HB: "NO! I`m Japanese!!"
You: "I know, where is your hometown?"
HB: (Somewhere in Japan)
You "Really that’s the place with------.` Cool. I'm from America."

HB: "Where do you work?"
You: "It's a secret, but I`ll tell you if you promise not to tell anybody else."
HB: "Tell me! Tell me!"
You: "I do spy missions in North Korea, but I'm stationed here in Japan."
HB: "No way."
You: "Really." (Pull out your cell phone with a picture of yourself looking like spy)
HB: "Wow really?"
You: "No, but that's a cool picture isn't it.
HB: "Your such a liar" (huge smile on her face she likes being toyed with)
You: "Actually I do sales and marketing for With The Style."
HB: "No, really"
You: "Really" (Break out the business card. I think that would be really cheesy in the
States, but in Japan if you have a cool job definitely pass your business card
off to chicks that you sarge. No bullshit, it validates you here.)

My jobs sparks interests and give me social proof, because With The Style is a very well known and popular, plush, designer, boutique hotel in Fukuoka. Japanese girls think my job is very impressive. In general people are impressed with the fact that I'm not an English teacher, like most westerners here. English teachers get a bad rap here sometimes, but I`ve seen guys reframe their position and make it sound like they are doing what they really love and turn into a positive situation. Whatever you do, do not complain about your job when hitting on Japanese girls in Japan. It makes you sound inept, because you can't do what you want and it’s just a downer.

Back to the party. Rie and I were having a great conversation, she gave me her official Tiara card with her contact info on it, without me asking. When the conversation started to get stale, I would excuse myself and go talk to other people and sarge other girls. Of course when I left other men would approach her. It was too early to take her home and I was having too much fun.

Aya kept hitting on me hard, asking me to dance and telling me that I have to accompany her to the after party. I continue to flirt with her and sarge the room.

We head to the after party, about 30 people show, 50/50 men to women, a ratio lower then the previous event. Both Aya and Rie come. I continue to sarge on, Aya bought all of my drinks at the after party became more aggressive.

I isolated Rie and start talking exit strategy. It was about 3 am, we both had to work in the morning. I suggest we split. She says she can’t come home with me (LMR), but she should go. I say fine, but I’ll walk her to a taxi. We find a taxi and I say, “Why don’t we split a taxi?” She reluctantly agrees. I tell the taxi driver to go to my place, we pass her neighborhood I put my arm around her and start kissing her. We arrive in front of my building, I take hold of her hand and lead her up to my apartment.

All in all a good night. I F-closed a cute girl who was highly desired in the club.

But it was kind of shady the way I used Aya twice. Rie is one of her best friends. Remember when we were AFC and we always complained about the dick teases and chicks who lead guys on. I do this Aya and it’s probably not cool. Having a pivot who is down with helping you game sounds great, but toying with someone you like as friend is not something I feel good about.

Any feedback would be great.

Jimmy Scizzors

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