Natural game only gets me so far. As soon as it comes to creating an emotional connection with a girl I actually like, I freeze up.

I know what I need to do; ask interesting, cool questions or make abstract statements that encourage more intimate, personal conversations to develop, kino, then kiss-close in a positive silence.

I just can't. Anxiety takes over, I take too long thinking and I simply don't have the material or experience to think on my feet.

Is there anything you guys can tell me that might help me out?

Mega, 21
London

If you want some context, read this: megas-first-field-report-sticking-point ... 25475.html

What are you anxious about? You've done the hard part.

I'm going to make the assumption that kino isn't your strongest area. So start touching people; friends, family - anybody that you engage in conversation. Don't be creepy.

comprehensive-guide-to-makeing-dhv-stories-vt16465.html

question wise all you're really looking to do is use her imagination rather than go into boring-interview-mode. what did you want to be/if you could be doing anything are standard i think. just rephrase questions on paper and have yourself some "canned comfort building" material. it's information you're going to want to know from all of your sets, so don't hide behind being "natural". boxers don't go into a fight without training.

_________________

I'm a winner - I am going to win.

Mega,

I have the same issues my man. But I've started overcoming them recently. here's how i did it:

Kino Kino Kino!

For me, Kino is not just about making HER comfortable, but also making ME comfortable! you see, i actually have to force myself to use Kino in the early stages and fight my desire to keep my hands to myself. I don't know what it is, probably my upbringing, but i just don't like touching strangers. Sometimes it's very awkward and uncomfortable for me. I read some MPUA suggesting that PUA's "Be that touchy feely person even if it is not you by nature".

I think what happens is once you start getting HER comfortable with your kino, she will start to open up, and as a result that will make YOU more comfortable! Before you know it, you will want to touch and be intimate. It's a beautiful thing.

Nice posts guys.

It's true, I think by nature I am quite a touchy feely person. Come to think of it, we all are really, it's just our upbringing the conditions some of us not to be. My family have always been pretty distant physically, my parents are divorced, and we only really hugging after worst, most distressing arguments. So I guess I've linked physical contact to something more serious and dramatic than it need be.

I think I can overcome kino quite easily. Moments of agreement, laughter, empathy, sympathy, suggestion and conspiration are great moments to touch someone absentmindedly. By the way, a good way to break the contact barrier is to first touch a girl with the back of your hand, it's less intimate but it's like a subconcious warning that you're likely to touch her again.

What I may do is make myself a cheat-sheet of quirky questions. This, I feel, is good for anyone who feels like they're a lame duck in social situations, lacking the jokes or random knowledge appropriate for out-of-the-blue discussion. Here we call it 'pub ammo'. Load yourself with pub ammo and you will begin to have authority over conversations and subsiquently become the centre of attention - a key part of attraction.

Mega, 21
London

Not sure if you,ve finnished reading the game but here is quote from Style, "Those who push themselves, and are willing to face pain, exhaustion, humiliation, rejection, or worse, are those who become champions. The rest are left on the sidelines"

Action cures fear brother go out and act!