Hey guys.
Me and my Wing went out for the first time yesterday... (I'm not posting this in the Field Report section for 2 reasons: 1. I can't 2. This isn't really a great field report it's more a bunch of questions... most of what we did wasn't game, but here were some patterns of it...).

So here it goes:
We enter the bar and divide to look a bit around. I instantly get hard AA i walk around a bit and finally manage to say something to a 2set:
"Could you imagine to get with someone who still sleeps with is teddy?"
well first thing I did wrong was pecking...
first thing (I think) I did right was body language though I wasn't really confident but I stood in a "I gotta go manner".
Frist off, she didn't understand me, so I repeat the line... and she says "No I'm already givenaway" I dunno what to say and eject ^^

This were two HB 6-7

Next set I'm approaching is HB 3-4 (^^ I needed some cinfidence)
I start with the "who lies more opener" I entertain them, I trie the numbers game (they knew it) and the best friends test (impressive to them) but very soon I ran outof things to say, started smalltalk, and ejected cuz I didn't want to hang around with them the whole night.

I meet with my wing and we talk a little, when a HB5 comes by he starts a convo with her I stay a bit then go away (question: what should a wing do in this case???).
anyhow I walked into some girls and asked them as opener:
"hey, what do you think about my watch (which is a vry goo peacocking item). They stop and laugh about my watch but cause they were moving and I didn't had anything to follow up with they went away.

I return to my wing who's still talking with the HB5. After a while we make her take to her friends and introduce us. an HB5 and an HB7.
I think a tried the Best friends test but they didn't get it. And while talking about best friends I said I was best friends with my wing and that if I wasn't gay the HB5 would be my type... I said it in a playful way, already suggesting that it ain't true.
They then say (the two HB5s) that I would be her type if they weren't lesbian...
so I started talking a bit with the new HB5 and my wing kept going on wih the old HB5. I ignored the HB7 cuz I hoped she would call for some attentaion cause she was obviously the prettiest girl in the set and we were ignoring her. The problem was, that I didn't came up with a could bite to get her in again, so that mus have been a bad night for her...^^
As my wing later told me and I figured out (later) the my HB5 was giving me IOI's the whole time (kino, smiling ....). so after some time the place gets empty (it was only a bar) and we walk to the station with them talk a little bit more. Then when they go to the bus my HB5 asks (cause I told her a bit about that before):So are u italian: I stupidly said no and she: what a pity cause I usally kiss italians goodby (on the lips) so I say: Well I'm Italian inside (which is true) and I get a kiss ...
What I should have said in my opinion was: Do you want to kiss me (Mystery K-close) so i could have kissed her a bit longer and real...


well, that was it... after all I got a kissclose but well I could have gotten more so tell me What and How to improve I'm thankful for very Information.

D@ngel

Hey buddy, you should set to your own standards, if you're happy with a ...hb5 then so be it. But personally, I'd rather go home with my hand and my dignity than lower my standards.

It's the Inner Game that makes the difference between an enlightened AFC and a PUA, so find a way to get some of that.

LoveJunkie,

Thanks for the answer. Your totally right, HB5 is NOT my standard.
They are several reasons why I kept hanging out with them:
- I hoped to get to the HB7 ... in vain ^^
- The place was getting really empty and I was having a good time with the
- I could exercise telling stories, kino and bodylanguage with them.

But my ambitions are to get to the HB 9s and 10s

This is brilliant.

So you talked to a girl that wasn't your type - so you ejected from a few sets because you ran out of things to say. At least you were in the sets.

You have to start somewhere and I like that you have.

Two things to do:

- Stay in sets longer and force yourself to be uncomfortable; you'll learn most in this situation, and can correct things later with your next set/night. Make conversation, run routines if there's a silence. Rather than leaving, next time blurt out whatever tomes to mind. "Hey, so last week I was walking to the store and this super junked up dog just chases me down the street!"

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Thanx 4 the advices