Hey guys, I'm brand new to this community, this is my first ever post so sorry if this is in the wrong area. I was introduced by "The Game" like most are now lately, but I've barely finished half the book. I've just graduated HS a couple weeks ago, so I'm trying openers and stuff in non-club surroundings.

Anyways, yesterday I went to a local gym to work out, and after I went to the hot-tub/sauna area to relax a little bit. While I was sitting in a chair, an attractive swimming instructor who didn't seem too much older than me walked by and walked into the steamroom (I noticed her teaching 2 elderly people in the pool)

I walked into the steamroom, and it was only us two. I sat there for about 30 seconds actually trying to get the nuts to spark up conversation. After thinking of what to say... I just decided to say what I noticed.

Me: "Hey, I noticed you teaching the two elderly people earlier, isn't it harder than teaching children how to swim?"
Her: "Meh, not really... it's all the same to me" (At this point she seemed really shy, and had like shocked face almost)
Me: "Oh really, well I always assumed it was easier teaching kids because with kids they're attention span is really short..." (I got cut off kinda and she finished what I was going to say. I was going to finish off by saying "unless you play with them, that's how you keep them interested in the class")
Her: "Well I like teaching kids more, just because you get to play around with them"
Her: "Are you a lifeguard?" (Possible IOI?)
Me: "No, unfortunately not, I never got passed Aqua 7... I could never do the damn whipkick"
*She Laughs* (again it seemed like a little shy/shocked laugh and look)
Me: "You know, you don't seem old for a swimming instructor" (I was going to play a little game of Hot/Cold with her age)
She: "No, I'm not that old" (I don't know if she got offended?)

She then got up and started to leave the steamroom, this wasn't the best place to approach just because she likely had to go back and teach again. So she might have had to leave at any time. While she walked away... she just said... "Alright, I guess I'll talk to you later."

Overall, I thought it was good for me because I could tell the projection in my voice wasn't normal, I was pretty nervous doing it. So at least next time I can calm myself down a little bit. Unfortunately, I couldn't tell if she was just shy, or I made things kinda awkward for her? I'll take it as if it was a little bit of both. Unfortunately, it wasn't the ideal place to have a conversation, because she was at work after all.

Now, does anyone have any pointers on where I went wrong, or what I could do better. Where I could have added some things... because after doing it... I realized I could have added a DHV story by quickly explaining how I once rescued my ex-gf at a lake after she asked if i was a lifeguard.

Again any pointers/tips would be greatly appreciated... Thanks!

First of all welcome to the community.

Now on with the post, for a first effort that was an awesome job dude. Heres some things you did well and things you could improve

1) Waiting 30 seconds, waiting that long to open gives off a nervous or possibly stalkerish impression ( delivery dependent). Cos im guessing you wernt talking to anyone else in there. However the first openers you attempt are nerve racking so good job on making the first one

2) Now this is a really minor point but by phrasing it as 'Hey, were you the one teaching those elderly people earlier' . This way it seems less like she caught your eye and your after her. But that really is nit picking

3) Nice bit of humour there. Good job

4) Your after instinct was right, could have gone into a DHV story there.

5) Other things you could have got in were a false time constraint or a neg early on . (possibly the age bit)

But for a first attempt awesome effort.

Hope this helps

[quote="TheAce"
5) Other things you could have got in were a false time constraint or a neg early on . (possibly the age bit)

But for a first attempt awesome effort.

Hope this helps[/quote]

Hey thanks alot, it definately does...

As for the false time constraint... where do you think that would have fit in? Because from my understanding... it's following you ask for an opinion on something? Just so it seems like you're not gonna hang around for a while. But what I asked was a question.

Secondly, what do you think would have been a good neg for the age part? When I commented on her not looking too old... she looked like she kinda got offended... so maybe a neg would have made her pissed off?

Just straight off the bat with the time constraint, something like . 'Ive been in here too long already' or 'only got a minute best get back to my friends' then ask the question.

For the Neg if she was taken back by your age comment that probably already did it then.