I've been browsing a bit, my first post.

I think i realized something today at work. The cleaning lady is hot, and i've been really trying to get over AA, and the store was empty, and i said, just talk to her. So I did. And she opened up...and she told me about her two kids...and then about her husband.

At first i got dissapointed, but then i realized...i'm just starting out with this. My goal should NOT be sex at the current time. My goal should be opening sets, and getting comfortable with trial and error. I should just be talking, working on my body language and verbage and voice, and getting over AA.

Is this a good way to start out? It seems to me that a big part of all this is just being open, honest, and interesting - and i figure that my focus with any given set is to try and # close or K close, that at the beginning, i'm just going to be disappointed.

So i ask for your judgement if my current outlook as a beginner is well placed?

Thanks.

Well done mate, you're starting out well. Stuff numbers, kisses, sex. For now at least. Just TALK to people. That's all you need to do. Talk, chat, speak, fluff, whatever you want to call it. Everything will slowly fall in to place once you can easily and comfortably chat with people.

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so, i'm back from a long nite. Things didn't quite go as i planned. I live in a small town (sarasota, fl) and its a wed nite. I first went to meet with friends at a bar/restaraunt, and the only lady there was a bartender who is maybe a hb 4. Not very interested, but i chatted her up playfully and asked for "a womens opinion" if my necklace made me look fat. when she said yes, i said, "good thing i can just take it off". She kinda laughed, but i think she was just pre occupied, and i was with 3 guy friends who do NOT know my new mission. So i really didn't pursue chatting her.

Also, i said something funny about fresca, one of my mates said 90 year old grandmas drink it, and the bartender laughed. I defended myself playfully, saying fresca is the shit (and that grandma is the best person in the world, up there with jesus). The bartender said that i had dropped on her respect level, and i said "thats just about where i'd like to be." Honestly i have no interest, and i thought that might be a beginners attempt at a neg??

Anyway, me and my one real real real good bud left to go to another club with live music. He really didn't know about my intentions for chatting people up, and i didn't want him to get the feeling that i was "abandoning him", so we kinda just chilled at the back and sat and talked. Now, it must be known that this bar has a waitress/bartender that is an easy HB10. we both know that she has been in relationship for over 3 years, and i really don't feel that i could chat her up.

So in the break of me and my friends converstion, she came and dropped off the drinks. I took advantage and just went for it. I asked her to take a real long look at my sandals (florida and all) and today is my first day using Mysterys recommendation of speaaaaaking slowwwlly, and with pauses and all that shit. She leaned in when i asked for a "ladies opinion" (i was sitting down), and after she stared at my sandals, i asked her if they made me look gay. She (and my mate) had a good laugh (he didn't know what i was doing), and then i transitioned into a "gay guy at a restaurant comped my lunch" routine, which ends with me confronting him and he having NO idea what i'm talking about. They both actually laughed pretty hard, and i think my delivery was decent.

I work as a sales consultant, and i'm also trying mystery's speech at work as well. I actually have ALWAYS talked VERY fast, and people will actually ask me to repeat once or twice. So this feels very unnatural, but i'm going to continue until it becomes 2nd nature, i also like it b/c it really lets me think about what i want to say.

Anyway, sorry for the long post, but even tho the nite wasn't filled with quite as many openings, i was really excited about the HB10 open.