I know this is going to sound terrible, but I need to break up a couple. They are getting married in August. I only talk to "soon to be wife". And based on her actions I know that she doesn't truly want to be with him. ((she's pregnant with someone elses child, she's cheated on him, she still talks to me even after he told her to cut ties with me....)) From what she tells me I don't think he wants to be with her either. He seems to be more wrapped up in his own world then trying to be around for her.

The problem is that they already have one child together and she doesn't have enough money to support herself by herself.

I can't watch them get married when I know they won't be happy together.

I do have someone personal issues in the matter too. Meaning I would love to be with her. But that's not the only reason I want to break them up.

So if anyone could tell me some effective boyfriend destroyers that would be great.

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Men fall in love with their eyes. Women fall in love with their ears.

Well sending an annymous letter might do the trick. Planting evidence that she is cheating, even if she isn't, annonymously. But the question is, does she even want to be with you? Because if she doesn't, than all of this will be a big flaming bag of a waste of time. I mean if she is engaged to him there is a reason she said yes. I mean there has to be something keeping her there.

She would probably know if it was me that sent the letter. I can't really plant evidence as she lives too far away from me.

She does want to be with me. She's told me numerous times she does. However, there are 2 problems. One, she is too far away. She lives in ohio I live in NY. Two, I met her way before I learned about the game. So I was an AFC when I met her, and I still tend to keep most of those qualities when I talk to her. I don't want to try and change the dynamic of our realtionship because I can't risk losing her. So that's another reason why she won't be with me. She has most of the power in the realtionship.

What's keeping her there is the child she has already. (In case this is two confusing there are two kids. One is born already and is the son of the two getting married. There is another one on the way that is her's and someone else's [not the fiancee]). So as I was saying, the one child is keeping her there. And also money. She can't support herself alone.

I started talking to her 3 years ago. She was dating her (boyfriend at the time) fiancee two years before I started talking to her. I guess about two years after her and I started talking they broke up. Then its been back and forth between him and I mostly.

I hope this isn't too confusing. Its all making sense to me, but that's only because I know what the hell I'm talking about. Let me know if you need me to clarify.

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Men fall in love with their eyes. Women fall in love with their ears.

Are you sure you don't have one-itis?

I do have one-itis. I've had it for as long as I've been talking to her (3 years). I can't deny that. I would love to be with her. But that's not the only reason I want to break them up.

I think its too late now. I think she really wants to be with him. Atleast she's starting to change how she's acting. She's going to break off all contact with me sometime in the future. He has made it very clear either him or me. We will have to see how things turn out.

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Men fall in love with their eyes. Women fall in love with their ears.