hey everyone. so i met this girl at my friend's birthday. turns our she went to the same high school as I did (we never met) and she also goes to the same college i do (ucla). so we talk a bit about our high school, and i build some comfort. unfortunately she had to leave early so i cudnt number close but i did add her on facebook the next day. she wrote on my wall the day after saying this "hahaha seriously!!! its really not ok.. I really dont know how its taken us SOOO long to meet... well we have a week to make up for the lack of communication in hs and at LA...=D". she said a week since she's graduating next week. so i message her a day later saying we shud get lunch and asking for her number she replies "yea for sure... give me a call.. and we'll figure out details...
xxx-xxx-xxxx" So i got her number and called the next day and we planned to meet for coffee during the day around 1 pm since she had a nightime event to go to. So i call her the next day at 1 and she doesnt pick up nor does she call me back. I message her on aim and ask what happened the previous day, she never messages me back. What happened???!

From the sounds of it you came across pretty needy, you called her way too much, then left her a message on AIM? If she stood you up then just leave it, she is the one that missed out, not you. She may have just been being nice.

- SC

NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER call a woman out on a flake. EVER. Do you get that now? In fact, you do nothing. If anything, in those situations, you would send a text that night "reverse flaking on her".


PUA: Yeah, sorry couldn't make it to coffee this afternoon. I had to go pick up my friend from the airport. (or something else)


In fact, if you feel a woman is going to flake on you, flake on her before she can flake on you. When you call out a woman on flaking, it leaves them with guilty feelings, which are negative and which they associate with you. So guess what happens the next time you call asking them to go out? Yes, they are going to remember you made them feel guilty about missing X plans and will not bother answering the phone or making plans with you.