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From my experiences, One itis has ONLY occured to me when I was insecure and lacked confidence in myself...being confident and knowing that it is not your loss (there are billions of other women in the world that would be lucky if you gave them the time of day) is pretty much the cure to one itis
Agreed--and I'll even go one further. Every time one-itis has happened to me, it was because I wound up in a situation where I valued the girl more than myself. One-itis and genuine love are not the same thing...one-itis is like some intense form of infatuation (infatuation already being pretty intense on its own). When I meet a girl and want her so badly that I forget I'm just as valuable (if not more, which I'm increasingly finding is usually the case), then she is no longer my equal--she has become a
prize. She's become the little golden idol deep inside the temple, and if she figures that out then she can begin to screw with me, shoot poison darts and send a giant boulder rolling after me just to see if I'm willing to go through all that just to get her out of that temple and back home with me. That's not healthy, and it's no way to get a woman...OCCASIONALLY it'll actually work anyway, but that's definitely no way to start a relationship because it's imbalanced from the beginning.
Every time I've gone gaga and dipped a girl in gold and put her on a pedestal, I got hooked by one-itis, and every single time I have failed in getting her as a result. I would never advise that you think of any woman as beneath you, because that's an unhealthy and misogynistic attitude to take, but I'll put it this way--no woman is ever, at
most, anything more than your equal. There is NOBODY on this planet who is better than you. If you're the best thing going, then that means
she is definitely
not, and for all you both know, there could be even better than her somewhere else out there. When she's not a prize, you don't feel that blind, insane drive to
win her.
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