I'll post this here in the newbe section because they are my first step, "just feeling the waters" and forcing myself to take action.

I've been mad at myself for reading, reading and taking no action, so today I decided to start a convo with an HB7 at the bank.

I was waiting in line with a lady friend and she asked if she could sit down for 5 min, she went and sat down next to the HB and they talked a little, I noticed the HB was eyeing me and I held EC. Then my friend got up and asked if I wanted to sit down and I said yeah.

I sat down next to the girl and said, "we're taking turns", she replied that it was really busy for a friday and how it sucks having to wait after a long day.

I agreed and asked how long did she think it would take until our turn.

So it was basicaly total fluff talk, I could have pushed myself harder but its my first experiment. Trying to get used to starting convos with girls. My tone of voice was calm, and my EC deep and steady. But I should speak louder and with more enthusiasm. I noticed she was wearing braces and thought that maybe I could use that to transision to more personal talk.

Also, my friend later told me the girl's BF was present, I think he was holding her place in line. How would you handle that?

Ok so thats it. I appreatiate any coments and feedback.

We all started simple and you're making good steps. If you walked into a situation with no outcome in mind then you have already achieved a number of successes by just getting out there.

You should take time to decide what your goals are. You had a good leg up on this one with your friend talking to the HB and getting an approach invitation and your friend basically plopped you down with her.

It is important to realize when you are TRYING to impress and show off to women as this will ultimatley be your greatest downfall. This is where you're going to freeze up as a result of trying to force something you're doing naturally. I personally can talk about stupid anything. One example I can give is starting a conversation about something as abstract as my legs being tired from exercising on Wii Fit and we will go off on random threads such as how often we exercise, being rambunctions and high energy, liking to keep fit, ect.

I can remember the akward silences and the girls favorite phrase being, "well talk to you later" so I know what not knowing what to talk about is like. I also remember talking to girls after rehearsing body language, tonality, ect. in my mind and then getting so enwrapped in situations that it all got thrown out the windows when that HB talked to me and the emotions flooded me.

Interestesting conversation is FAR easier than you think but they key is to NEVER force it or else you're going to draw blanks. Like anything else the best working things are the most natural.


As far as her boyfriend goes here's a rather witty one I've used on girls:

"It's so nice of him to save your spot for you."
"hehe yeah he's amazing."
"so what's it like to be in the perfect relationship"
"well...(hold for negative statements)"

You're body language sounds like it was solid and confident so keep that going! Other than that you're making progress which is most important; I look forward to reading your next field report.

- Chris

Hey, thanks! Great encouragement! Exelent feedback. I appretiate it.

I LOVED your bit about the BF. Laughed my ass off!

Well, I'm not taking any excuses anymore, so later today (same day), I was in line at the supermarket. And right in front of me, was this girl, a low 7 or 6, she had her back turned to me, kind of sexy with her nose pierced.

I felt really intimidated, my voice is not great today, I have a cold and sinus, as well as a terrible headache, perfect excuse. Screw it! I have to do it. The line is not moving. I've got a say something. She looks really serious. "But her back is turned to me", goes the wussie voice in my head. I suspect the women in front of her are her family, though they weren't talking amongst themselves.

Finally I hear her complain to them about the line. Says shes missing her tele novela (biggest disease in this country, to me, it shows she is a simple minded bitch) and I decide to coment, I tell her i've never seen this line not move at all like this, and she colmplains some more, never looking at me.

I felt a bit discouraged, but proud that I forced my self against such odds. I even added that it's been like this all day, it was like this at the bank. She ignored the comment. Well, her bad, keep watching her tele novelas.

Ok, theory is bullshit. Went out to a rock concert in a bar tonight. It's a pretty well known band around here. Had the chance to socialize with a few new ppl, nothing special.

I went with a friend who plays in another small, well known rock/blues band. His band is getting a bit popular and groupies are starting to become a constant. I hate him! LOL

Had the chance to chat with an HB10 he made out with after his last show. WOW! What a woman. OMG.

Then we talked to another HB which he banged some time ago. I chatted making steady EC with her also. One thing i've noticed is how ppl respond better to you when you do deep, steady EC. This second girl ejected after a while but gave me some cool kino on the arm when leaving.

Shit, a woman's touch feels dam good. How I miss it...

Overall I had lots of fun, but no sarging, no approaches, and I came back home feeling lonely and needy. As for my friend, the mudah fukah was leaving with an HB when I left and is probably getting laid right this moment! Oh, how I hate him!

Oh well, I hope I can keep practicing and get better quickly.

Oh, and I don't really think theory is bullshit. I'm realizing one thing. I'm terrified of opening mixed sets or talking to guys I don't know. Fuck, do I see myself as less than other guys?