i have this situation. 2 years ago my girl dumped me because i failed her. i promised her something and i failed her, she cried and dumped me. i hurt her so i kinda deserved it. she got a new bf immediately and he`S her bf right now. half a year ago, she started talking to me again. she talking to me quite often, lately every day when she sees a chance. i get messages from her. she`s flirting with me and i see that she`s interested, but i dont want to ruin her relationship because i dont want a one with her. i think she sees a better man in me than her bf is. today i reminded her if i could take her to lunch some day. meeting came up to discussion. that reminded her the past because we havent seen each other since she dumped me. she got a bit emotional (she`s emotional person, ukraine blood), i tried to solve the problem and understand her, i didnt knew that talking about meeting brings bad memories back to her mind. she said that im not respecting her. i tried to find out why. she said that football is more important to me than her. not exactly that, but she meant that. wtf? of course she aint so special to me. she went to bed saying that "yeah, you can surely handle women" without wanting any reply. i messaged her back that it wasnt the smartest thing to do and she should say when negative memories come up. wtf should i do? i dont wanna hurt her! i think i shouldnt talk to her much now, so she would calm down and i wouldnt be the person who`s in her mind every day. why is she acting like that? she mention me as a "friend", but im not sure if she only sees "a friend" in me.
why is she acting like that. any recommendations what to do? i dont want a relationship with her like she has with her bf. i just dont wanna hurt her. but i would do her lol

Well i think I got the jist of it but ur english was a little off i'm assuming its ur 2nd language.

My question for you is if you don't want anything with her why are u even talking to her?

Or do you want to hook up with her again, or if she broke up with her boyfreind would you want to get back together with her?


Also I wouldn't use text messages especially for what seems like serious conversations I would use the phone or person. Using text messages you only get 10% of what shes actually saying, most if it comes in a persons body language and tone and I truely believe that after learning how to read body lanugage over the last few years. Also by only using texts you are really limiting what you two can say to each other.


Anyways if u don't want anything with her I would just stop talknig to her. Her telling you that u like football more then her is a shit test, she is trying to evoke a response from you. If she likes you perhaps she is trying to evoke you to reply that you are into her and that you missed her...

If you are beginning to have feelings for her again or if you want to hook up with her, I suggest you set up a time to meet and talk in person. Keep it light and simple and fun. I would avoid any heavy or deep topics. Rebuild your relationship as freinds and re-create an emotional bond with her. You donj't need to DHV that much because she already knows ur value. Then u can start escalating kino.

But again it doens't seem like this is waht you want so my answer to u based on what I got from it is to stop talking to her.

right, its not my first language and i told everything in a rush. i avoid talking to her from now, but not as like im going to dismiss her from my life completely.
yeah i`ve told her that i dont understand her completely because i dont see her in person.
i`ve gone too far with her, its time to back up.