| Script? Holy shit. If you're standing in front of a group of girls and you try to remember things word for word, guess what? You're gonna look weird. PUA is not about a script you read to a girl, wait for her reaction, then formulate the best response based on what you've read for that exact reaction... you're not a fucking computer. You've probably read hundreds of pages worth of PUA material, and I can guarantee you only a very small amount of that has stuck with you. You're trying way too hard by remembering lines and stuff... lemme tell you about my friend, cos I don't want you going through the same thing.
The guy who introduced me to PUA is similar to you. He doesn't have everything internalised, so while talking to a girl his brain is in overdrive. He is trying to maintain eye contact, watch her body language, figure out the best body language he should be using, when to touch her, which routine to use, which routine to stack onto that one, trying to figure out the best way to DHV, and a plethora of other shit... the human brain can only concentrate on one thing at a time so all he does is confuse himself. When I watch him I can actually tell by his eyes that he's thinking like crazy, and if I can see it, no doubt girls can see something strange in his eyes aswell. Eye contact is extremely important, and when you try to remember something your eyes will dart to one side to retrieve the information. So, either you break your eye contact in the middle of a sentence, or you concentrate on keeping your eyes locked on her and are unable to think. If there's something weird going on with your eyes it will make you look nervous - this is one of the main reasons to get your game internalised, so you can relax and have fun. The best way is to stop giving a shit about what she thinks... why are you trying to impress her anyway? Just a girl.
What I'm saying is, don't treat talking to girls like a task or a chore, don't make it monotonous. It's not a big deal. You want to have fun and enjoy talking to girls, and with all this stuff running through your mind there's no way in hell you can be having fun. Relax, use an opener you like and just talk to them like a normal person and joke round with them. Better yet, don't try to pick them up until you talk to a few girls in a friendly way and get comfy around them. Talk to them the same way you'd talk to your friends, and you'll see how nice they can be. I made friends with a lot of girls in the office I used to work in, and a good handful of them were hot as hell... I didn't try to game them because it'd be embarassing if I fucked it up, so I just made friends. It worked in my favour, thanks to talking to them every day and sitting close to them I was able to warm to new girls very quickly and make them comfortable also.
Next time you go out just have fun. Don't try to have fun, go with a few friends and have a laugh, and don't take it seriously. PUA is not dogma.
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