So something sorta just came up and I have an idea of what I'm gonna do but I did just want to see what some of your opinions were.

I'll give you some quick background info. I'm 25 and shes 23 (just started dental school, i'm in the medical school). I was dating this girl for approx 2 years, 1st 1.5 years we never fought about anything had a lot of fun all changed about 7 months ago. Its sorta my fault i was kinda mean to her and I would get drunk a lot and didn't treat her amazing shes about a 8.5 / 10 some people here might call her a 10 but I think you guys throw that number around to much lol. She was a great girlfreind and I sorta blew it I guess but whatever I didn't apprecaite how much I had and we've all been there and realized it after a break up. So she wanted to take a break about 4 montsh ago we were beginning to hang out again and then 2 months ago i got drunk and was a total asshole and we ended it there she dumped me.

Since I have realized how dumb I was. I gave her a few weeks after didn't contact her, we did talk and I told her I missed her but didn't cry or beg her back or anything. She told me someone was pursuing her and I tried to make her jealous by saying I hooked up with other girls and alrady went on a dat ewith smeone new (which was a dumb move even though it was true). This just pushed her more into the guys arms. So shes rebounding now and so am I with 2 girls (although I don't have any feelings for them but just to take my mind off everything).

The ex and I hung out about 1 week ago i didn't bring up anything serious, didn't try to kiss her or beg her back or anything and didn't set up another date, although she tried to set up another date( and she did some minor arm kino which I just ignored). We talked twice earlier this week on Gchat again nothing serious.

Anyways why I'm typing this I called her today and she called me back talked for a few min about whatever and then she asked if I was gonna be around tonight I told her I would and not sure if I was going out. She said some freinds of her were going to this new bar and If I wanted I should join her.

So my question.

First do I think this is a real invite or is she just inviting me to be kind (i'm not sure).

And most importantly does it even matter?

Should I just go and be the opposite of mean but still DHV and social. I want to go not sure if I should but I'm gonna have some of my boys go too for backup although I am very social with her freinds and like her freinds and could keep them entertained, something I think she would appreciate since her freinds getting along with a boy would be a positive for her (and any girl lol)

I dunno though how the best way to handle tonight is. (was thinking 25% of time to her and 25% to her freinds and 50% to my freinds, I don't wanna hang all over her but I don't want to ignore her) Normally I can see everything crystal clear but we all know when u have some oneitis your heart starts trumping your brain so any clairty would be appreciated.

It's so easy to get caught up in the game, negging and social profing, that we forget the reason WHY we went down this journey. To get the girl WE want. I am sharing a letter from my friend Carismo, which hopefully makes things clear for you:


Carismo

My Story!!!! Close to my heart.

Great article my friend

What most men dont understand is that it is perfectly fine to tell a girl how you feel. It actually can bring you too much closer then any other technique. Because women want to be loved as well

The problem most men face is that they first gotten into the game because they kept on making wussy behaviors, and telling a girl that he loves her or says how beautiful she is without her ever earning it. These men just spilled out there emotions too early.

So when they come into the game the best way they know to combat this is just do the complete opposite. So they never tell a girl how they feel much like you did, me aswell... ill tell a story at the end of this.

The fact is that when the men of this community are faced with a women they really enjoy they dont want to lose her so when she tells him about her feelings he response cold to it in fear of loosing her due to past experiences and the game.

So he responds with something along the lines. "I know i love me too" instead of "I understand i think i may have fallen in love with you" The fact is that its OK to tell her how you feel. But just don do it too early.

True story.

There was this supermodel i was dating last summer. She was the most gorgeous girl and free spirited girl i have ever met. You know the type of women who makes you smile and at her purest form is a complete joy to be around. She acted like a 8 yr old by jumping around on the bed, running in place, and flashing me when i entered her room singing "Im SO excited". She was truly a catch.

It was time for her to do a photo shoot in japan. and she told me. "Gary I love you, but I dont know if i should go to Japan or stay here with you." I was so afraid of telling her how i felt because i viewed it as Wrong to tell her i didn't want to lose her. so i responded with Cocky funny. She laughed but i saw the look of disappointment on her face.

She went to Japan. We didn't talk for about 2 weeks because of the time difference and she committed suicide because her friend said that she was miserable and heartbroken and wanted to be around me. The truth is I LOVED HER MORE THEN MYSELF and i will never be able to tell her.

This is really a hard story to tell because of its impact I'm my life.

So Please men It is a good thing to tell women how you feel and dont let this game turn you cold like it did to me. We all learn from our experiences

hope this helps

-Carismo

It does help and I appreciate it.

People break up for 2 reasons I feel.

Either the guy stopped being a challnege, became a wuss, chased her, stopped being excited, I guess in essance reverted back to AFC


Or they break up becuase a guy was mean, to unavailable, not open enough, you get the picture.


The ideal is somewhere in between. We broke up because of the later and if I want her back I feel the best way would be to open up and let her know how I feel then balls in her court. Tonight I will keep it light and simple, some kino but not much and the 3rd time we hang out maybe sometime next week I will let her know how I feel. This guy shes with prob doesn't mean anything to her as the girls I am with don't mean much to me.

Not sure if the technique will work but we'll see.

Word of advice: we all eventaully find someone and get married so all the girls who we were with before never really mattered even though at the time (like now) they feel like the most important thing in the world. Or we end up with the girl we are currently stressing in which case what was the point in stressing them because it will work out.