My problem with picking up girls is sometimes I can just do something naturally that leads to success or a kiss-close, but if I ever plan to approach girls or a specific girl it never works.

I always tend to go for chases with specific girls on myspace / facebook / dating sites or whatever and get nowhere with it. Also if I plan to try game on specific girls or hang out at a specific bar in a club I can never get the same result I do when I have these random encounters and my cocky funny side comes out naturally.

Even sometimes it's with the girls I'm not into that I can entertain and be funny and flirt with, but when there's someone I want I will mess it up.

I can't figure out why naturally I tend to be hopeless but if I don't plan something occasionally I can randomly get a success e.g. (walking out of a nightclub with a group of mates up the steps in the smoking section, give girl eye contact she likes the waistcoat I'm wearing and I ask her to touch it, I use kino to touch her arm and make her touch my waistcoat, she also likes my designer glasses and wants to try them on, so I tell her if she wants to try them on she has to snog me while wearing them and this works and I get the kiss-close etc), but if I wanted to do something like that I couldn't plan for that sort of success.