I'm going to David D's Man Transformation seminar in LA in a couple weeks and need to figure a few things out. I'm from NC so I'm taking a weeks vacation to go and not really comfortable telling people why I'm going.

The main problem is I'm fairly new to the game and have suddenly found myself very sexually involved with this girl I've been dating and I'm not sure what to tell her when I leave in a few weeks. We've been talking/having sex for several weeks and although I have not indicated any interest in a serious/exclusive relationship I think she is falling pretty hard. I don't want to be careless with her and I'm not ready to end this relationship either. Just want to keep dating other people even though I'm not really seeing anyone else right now. I could make something up (but I really don't want to) or tell her I'm just going by myself for the hell of it but that might seem weird.

Any ideas? What if I just tell her why I am going? It WAS planned before we ever met. I totally expect to have a "what are we" conversation with her at some point wether I like it or not but not really ready for that yet. The sex is effing incredible BTW.

I don't really know what to tell other people in my life either. With people at work I can just say I'm going. Parents: I can probably tell them and it won't really matter but they won't understand (they are really conservative). Good friends: kind of not sure how to explain disappearing to LA for a week. As a bit of background, I usually either go see friends somewhere on vacation or go on a huge kayaking or snowboarding adventure so this is a little out of character for me since I don't know anyone in LA.

Again the goal is to avoid lying because I don't want to weave a tangled web with anyone really.

Why not just say your going on vacation and leave it at that?

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"Be the same, only better."

Tell them the truth (kinda?). You are going on a trip to a seminar that will help you improve your self image. Everyone needs their own version of a "kick in the butt" to get them to where they need to be in life. So you choose to take a seminar that will teach you how to be a stronger, more social individual.

In other words, not telling people about what you are doing is kind of disapproving of what you are doing. Sure it can be a bit embarrassing to admit that you need improvement. But feeling embarrassed about getting the help will only reinforce your negative feelings, and could potentially undermine everything you learn.

As for the girlfriend situation, well you can't hide it. Tell her whats up, the sooner the better. And honestly she's probably gonna think you are crazy. But not as crazy as if you lie about it and then having her eventually figure out what's going on. What's going to be weird is depending on the success of the seminars you could very well be coming back a completely new you, and she's going to have to be ready and willing to accept that.

Hmmm... that's making me think. If one does attend a seminar, assuming the person starts out as an AFC and has a goal of becoming a PUA, should one keep having a pre-seminar girlfriend? My assumption is that having a girlfriend one used to act AFCish around, will that hinder the education and experiementing? It feels kinda lose/lose to me.

Haha, hope i didn't make things more confusing, i love to ramble.

Thanks for the thoughts and I guess I have a lot of deeper things to think about. I would not call her a girlfriend at all right now. Thats what I am trying to avoid. She is my first successful target since starting this PUA material some time ago. The seminar is just a further step for me so it really wouldn't be a defined before AFC and PUA after unless it really is a MAN TRANSFORMATION.

She probably is and will be holding back as long as I keep her around since it's easy guaranteed sex that I have not had for so long until now. But since it has been so long I'm not ready to give it up yet and at the same time if I've got it, how hard am I going to be looking for it.

This brings up another good question. What do you do after you close if you are not looking for an LTR. Do you just move on or is there a certain way to keep girls around for casual sex without lieing to them or making them feel like they are the only one?

In this case the girl lives 2 hours away so that keeps some physical distance but she will drive all the way here to stay with me and have crazy sex all night and she "misses" me a lot.

I'm not all that confortable with intentionally using girls but at the same time I HAVE TO practice or I'm not going to get anywhere. Is there a win/win solution?