This is a follow up to the girl I was talking about in this thread: received-iois-vt18847.html

Summary from that thread: Met a girl that works at Starbucks, got IOIs that forum members confirmed were IOIs, then I told her to help me shop when I get groceries next Sunday (today). I felt pretty good about her last week and I was pretty sure she was attracted.

Fast forward to today. We had no contact the whole week. I didn't get her screen name or number last week and was planning on doing that today. I show up to Starbucks and she's not there. I asked the older lady there that usually works with her if the girl was working today. The older lady says "no, but i'll let her know you stopped by." (crap, do i want the old lady to do that? seems like a DLV for me). Also, the coworker asked why I was asking and I told her that the HB was supposed to help me shop today. I think this was a huge mistake for me to reveal and could be a huge DLV for me.

Anyway, from our interaction last week, I was 90% sure she was attracted to me. I also caught her eyeing me the times I went to Starbucks before last week. Anyway, it's Easter today so she might have had family stuff to do, but when I told her that she was going to help me shop last week, the conversation went something like this.

Me: Do you eat healthy?
HB: Yeah, why?
Me: You're helping me shop next week. Are you going to be here?
HB: Yeah, I work every Sunday.
Me: Oh, well how are you going to help me shop while you're at work?
HB: I can clock out whenever I want. I'll take time off and help you
Me: Alright then, next week, you're helping me get healthy food

The whole time, I was getting good body language from her with some kino. I seriously don't know what the deal was. If she was attracted, wouldn't she have made more of an effort trying to be there today? I'm a little lost.

Anyone have any insight on what happened here AND what my next move should be. Also, the lady she works with will tell the girl that I stopped by (assuming she remembers). Is this a DLV for me or what? And finally, she gave me her full name last week so I can look her up on facebook. Is this a good idea to look her up and call her out on not being there?

Long post, I know, but I'm pretty confused right now.

well if it has been more then 4 days since you talked to her about it i would guess she figured you where kidding around or not serious. something came up and she didnt think you would be there anyway

I don't think that's it. I don't have any way of contacting her since we didn't exchange anything during our last meeting. Also, when we were discussing it, she seemed pretty excited about the idea and we both pretty much agreed that it would be at the regular time I visit. She knows what time this is and even confirmed with me before I left. I have a feeling it was because of Easter, since a lot of people take a day off to do family things, but I'm not sure. Also, she said she works every Sunday, so I doubt she would have changed her work schedule just to avoid me.

Also, could someone tell me if telling her coworker about what we were supposed to do could be a huge DLV for me? Any further opinions are welcome.

Anyway, thanks for the insight tomtom.

Anyone else have any opinions?

I mainly want to know if I should call her out on it the next time I see her.

don't call her out, she'll then associate guilt with you

should have n- closed her the first time, but hindsight is 20/20

plenty of other girls out there

easy come easy go

Oh, ok. The thing is, I'm going to see her again since I go there every sunday. What's my move if she's the one that mentions it out of guilt? I actually don't want to neg her about it since she's probably already feeling bad, plus she was most likely gone because of Easter, so I don't want to have her feel bad about being out on holiday.

I have a feeling "it's no big deal" is too much of an AFC response though. On the other hand, I think saying something like "you're going to have to make it up to me" is a little too much (which goes back to the guilt association).