I was an AFC all my life up until about 8 months ago. There was a girl I knew of but not really well (or social circles overlap, but only slightly). We started dating, but not actually BF/GF. While she's the one that opened me, I was always the one calling and setting up outings, shes pretty bad at calling me back too. I went on a business trip for two months, during which I called once a week but never reached her. when I came back, I found out that she had gotten a new job. I can't get into details, but it's a temporary postion (2 years at most) and does take up almost all of her time. She said she wanted to be in a relationship with me, but that could interfere with her job.

We agreed not to be committed to each other.

easy for her -- she doesn't have time.

But it puts me between a rock and a hard place. On one side I want to go out, meet girls and improve my game. I'm not looking for a real relationship, becuase I feel part of me is waiting on this girl. But then its hard for me to go out at flirt with other women and work on my game when I know there is this girl that likes me, and i like her to. I feel that if I get into a relationship with someone else, its like cheating or at least playing games. If you want more details I can give, but is this one itis? do I need to forget about her? (even though she's easily a 10).

I have a pic of us on my wall

Yeah, that's pretty much a one-itis. If you want to see if she "waits" for you that's fine, but in the meantime, especially since NEITHER OF YOU ARE COMMITTED TO THE OTHER, there's NOTHING wrong with you meeting other girls. If this thing is serious, you WON'T get serious with another girl anyway. If she decides she's not going to wait, and you don't meet other girls, you just wasted all that time.

thanx for thw input. it definately helps. Some days are just harder than other ya know?

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Yep, I know.

Yep, oneitis, if i was you id get rid of her for good. Its so messy and uninspiring. You should cut her lose and go practice. Nothing mends breakups like time, but you might as well game in that time.

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What a title!