Hi, I met this HB8 through a friend a couple of weeks ago. We went out for drinks in Covent Garden last Wednesday. The night went well, no awkward silences, lots of laughing, sexual tension and a kiss before she jumped on her bus.

She text me later that night when she got in and the whole of the next day. She then text me when I was out on Saturday asking me to take her out again then again on Monday night. Both times I asked when she was free but both times she didn't text back.

I spoke to her on FB yesterday and negged the crap out of her for not responding and tried to force her to qualify herself to me. She got pissed off and hasn't spoken to me since.

I know I shouldn't have asked when she was free, I should have told her when we're going to go out next. But can I rectify this mistake? I know she's interested but she's a total head fuck! Any advice?

If she's a total head-fuck then move on bro!

Don't beat yourself up too much about it. You haven't 'fucked up', she's just a head case. Even if you suggested a date she may well have flaked. It sounds like she uses guys to make herself feel good and serially does this.

That said, you're a bloke and you wanna just shag her irrespective of her saddo personality. I get that

Let some time pass (a week, two weeks whatever!) and let the old wounds heal. If she hated your guts she'd have removed your ass off her friends list on FB.

After some time has passed initiate contact again...and start from the beginning

In the meantime concentrate your energy on getting out there and game other girls. You'd be amazed how quickly you'd forget about this one when the next HB comes along

Thanks Ash, You're so right, I've set up a few dates with other girls and I already feel a lot less pissed off about this chic!

I think a good lesson and a great quality to have in game is not to put all your attention on one girl, having 3 or 4 girls on the go at one time gives you more confidence and the ability to push pull realistically.

But you're right, I do want to shag this chic.....what can I say, she's hot! I'll leave it a week, if she hasn't got in touch, I'll start from scratch.

Thanks man.

Actually, this girl doesn`t seem to be "head case", she behaved like many others do.

Hardcore negging was unnecessery. After she did not text back you should just go on with your normal life and she would eventualy call you back. HC negging on FB just showed your insecurity and you even probably offended her.

If you wanna act like some fake PUA, yeah, do what ever was previously advised to you, but if you wanna act like a real man, call her, apologise for insults (if there were any or she figured negs as insults) and ask her out for a "make up" coffee.

If she refuses then go ahead but it will be without bad feeling for being a jerk. But I am pretty convinced she won`t refuse you.

Marco

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The negging was not right but that's just learning experience. If you initiate contact again and she brings up the negging thing, then of course apologise (like a man) but also mention that talking online sometimes leads to misunderstandings and that it wasn't your intention to insult her

But to call her up and open with an apology? Fair enough if you ran her dog over. This is the girl that didn't bother getting back to you. She might not have deserved the hard negging but it was still bloody rude of her.

If this girl is 'the one' then sure apologise, grovel, do what it takes. But for the sake of a shag?? Plenty more fish in the sea.

Anyway let us know how it goes. We're all here to learn