‘Be charming, but don’t be charmed!’

They didn’t want me to publish this article!

I told my friends who are into this ‘psycho-speak’ improving results with girls stuff, that I was going to write an article on ‘keeping your eyes searching’ while your in set’ and ensuring your constantly in a set. What I mean by this is, regardless of who your talking to, you should be constantly looking for a way to jump out of the conversation into another conversation with someone else. When I told friends about this article The feedback from my friends was kinda “isn’t that the overarching theme in all your articles anyway”.. I feel my response should be “Yeah your right we are all looking to improve our results, and we constantly talk about the model and theories related to pick up, but how many people actually just ensure they are giving themselves a fighting chance”.

The ways to get closer to the hotties is to use pawns.

Never go up to a hottie straight off, she might just kill you out just for the sake of it just to look after her fine ass, you might be able to stay strong and continue ignoring her insults etc to you, but they can sometimes be difficult to deal with. Instead its better to constantly stay in set, i.e. to use random groups of people near the attractive girls in order to near yourself, eventually introducing your group of ‘new friends’ to the hotties, and then chiming in and taking the prize from a ‘level of wow’ into a place of ‘getting to know each other’

“The recession has been killing my game!”

You know, when I was in my prime. (right now I’m not on top of the world… think Richard Branson in his early years) When I was younger I went out ‘gaming solo’ on the assumption that ‘every girl is single… that’s why they are out, to meet me’, these days I assume they are dying to meet me but not necessarily ‘sleep with me’.

These days I don’t assume the majority of hotties are single… However that doesn’t mean I don’t approach them, dude hotties are so rare you can’t just let gold walk past you and let it escape.. run! I think in a recession it could be that being single is too expensive to be a viable option for these ‘daddies girls’… Just think of all those ‘random nights out’, those ‘random dates’, or ‘massive phone bills’, and in a recession perhaps such expenses people see as unnecessary and instead remain happy as a couple together. Don’t worry sunshine, once the economy rocks out these girls will ditch the ‘nice boyfriend’ and come out to play.

Hotties blowing you out?

Often at the moment, me and other PUA’s find themselves gaming a girl and everything is going completely great, she is loving all of the cocky and funny ‘banter’ and she is completely concentrated on the interaction, then suddenly it comes to scaling up the kino, and going for the close and she suddenly pulls out, only to later discover that she’s got a boyfriend but was enjoying feeling attractive that she failed to mention this point.

“Keep your head in the game” – High School Musical.

If you start getting all these ‘big ideas’ about landing this hottie your speaking to, first off you might lose her for being too ‘full on’ secondly your missing out good opportunities walking past, I think everytime your in a set you should be constantly changing your mind about who you want as a target, but never convey this to your audience as they will smell a rat. Not only should you be changing your mind about who your targeting in the group, but you should be looking outside the group for other groups that you can move onto to escape this set and get closer to a new target.

Don’t be a performer, give people the time of day.

Be interesting, but be interested, that’s attraction, my advice about looking for ‘new sets’ could easily be taken wrongly to imply you run around a nightclub opening everyone but never getting to know anyone…. that’s not what I’m suggesting! The more conversations where people have become interested in what you have to say and you’ve took the time and energy to display that you think they have something special, but without letting your audience onto this… Then the less like a performer you look, and the more charming you’ll come across.

Look for ‘Bedroom eyes’

When I was a younger man, I always told my friends, look you need to have a ‘special relationship’ with every girl you ‘lock eyes with’ but without any other girl noticing… because they have eyes like hawks, and if they see you they’ll dub you a rat’

In reality that wasn’t detailed enough in order to get ‘really good’ at game. If you indicate interest too early on in most approaches (assuming girls aren’t drunk) then you’ll probably just get blown out, you’ve got to put the charm on a little more sneakily than that! Its said in sales that people like being sold to, but only when its done skill-fully, Everyone knows they’ve been sold to, but the point is that a good sales person gets you into it so smoothly that its an enjoyable process.

The moment a girl gives you ‘the bedroom eyes’ basically the ‘relationship face’ then she’s trying to ‘force an indicator of interest’ from you, OK some girls fair enough might abuse this just to get attention from a venue in order to come across like the hottest thing to land on this plant.

But I think the majority of girls aren’t manipulative enough to bother… I mean you’d seriously have to be ‘into the scene’ and have a ‘desire to conquer it’ to have that level of calibration. If a girl gives you the bedroom eyes, she wants to want you. What I mean is that she doesn’t want you yet, but she wants you to convince her into it.

We all like to feel sexy!

The amount of times when I’ve been talking to a girl and I have just not being into it, but she’s put her charm on and given me attention then after perhaps ten minutes of this she pulls away.. Jesus.

She’s just landed me. If you’ve got someone interested in what your saying, or paying attention to your movements within a venue, (you can notice these girls while talking to other groups of girls) then that girl really wants to be ‘talked into it’ the same way we all need talking into it.

Keep your eyes open, keep moving, don’t stop.. The girl your with might not be it!

Have fun.

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