Hey guys. I've dated a girl monday and we've kinda hit it off.

First off, we've had enormous kino and great rapport : playing with fingers, hugging, neck biting ( she bit me ) but no kiss ( kinda weird, since she DID gave me the "eye-to-lips gaze" twice ). She even proposed future plans together ( cooking, movies )

Since then, we've been texting back and forth and I think i might have screwed it up big time. ( Note : this is still at the "I think" stage )

this happened today. I told her that i've had a dream about her :
Me: i dreamed about you last night
Her: oh, goooood
Her: aaaand?
Me: it's dirty
Me: we were in the woods and it was day
Me: and it started to rain and there was mud everywhere
Her: yeeees
Me: and we were soaking wet
Me: and at one point you trip and you fall in the mud
Me: and when you fell, you pulled me down too
Me: and we started to mud-wrestle
Me: playfully
Her: )))
Me: maaan, it was dirty
Her: is that all that happened?
Me: nope
Me: after a few min i pinned you down in the mud
Me: after that i pulled you up and pinned you against a tree....not too hard
Me: and i was touching you below the ribs
Me: under your shirt
Her:
Me: which was kinda large now, since we pulled our clothes and stuff
Her:
Me: what?
Her: go on
Me: you had another shirt on, so chill
Me: after that it started raining harder and we took our shirts off and put them on our heads
Me : and we made out passionately and you bit me
Me: and after that i woke up
Her: ))
Her: goshhhhhhh

After she signed out of IM, i texed her a bit :

Me : Oh and do have horny dreams tonight . And tomorrow, if you don't feel better, think about me. that'll make you smile and feel good.
Her : ))))) you too! good night and good luck tomorrow...on second thought, you better not dream ))
Me: And why should I not be dreaming? You make me feel like a pudgy, naked, winged child has shot an arrow into my chest. and thanks for the good luck, i'll wake up very early in the morning.
Her : oh goooooooood, noo noo, think you dreamed that too. it's bad, you don't discern reality from dream. oo, nasty, you'll have less time to dream )
Me: I think the pudgy, naked, winged child message didn't came out well. Don't get me wrong, i don't love you...at least not now. you just make me smile and make me feel good.

So, the million dollar question is : did i messed it up or not?

I think you were WAY too blatantly sexual. Creating imagery is good and all but you took it too far. You might have made her uncomfortable. I can't really tell you if it's a lost cause because I'm still a noob. Sorry.

I've got to agree with Phantom on this one. It seems like you came off as too desperately sexual by dragging the description out, I've done the same thing in the past and it got me nowhere. It's good to talk about sexuality, but I try to keep it just enough so I don't get stuck in the friend zone. When I fuck a girl it's not brought up or made clear that I'm horny and want to get laid, I test kino and advance sexually, sometimes tanking but for the most part it works, example:
I met this girl out on the town and we had been talking for about a week, while on our date I found the opportunity to set up a date at my crib, she said she wanted to see this movie and I happened to have it. She came over and I put in the movie, she laid down on the edge of the bed so I laid down behind her (propped up to see the tv). She noted that she was cold so I said something like "Here, let me warm you up a bit," I laid down, scooted closer to her so our bodies were touching and put my arm around her and said "better?" She put her hand on mine, looked at me, smiled and said "yeah, a lot better." I went to kiss her and next thing you know we're fucking, a couple weeks later she's my girl.
The point of that story is that you don't have to be real sexual to get laid, just be real. If a girl is interested in you and they want to fuck you, most of the time they will give you an opportunity to create that opening like that girl did with me. If you didn't tank it just try this out.

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[quote=""Phantom""]I think you were WAY too blatantly sexual. Creating imagery is good and all but you took it too far. You might have made her uncomfortable. I can't really tell you if it's a lost cause because I'm still a noob. Sorry.[/quote]


he is right, FAR too sexual. try and be more playful and subtle. if you push to hard with sex, she will kick back even if she doesnt mean it with a game destrying line and then u will have fucked up.