Alright, so I have had hit a snag in my online game recently, the result of a few stumbling blocks, and it has set me back a bit.
The beauty of this is that it has forced me to go back to the drawing board - what I was doing was clearly not quite good enough. I realized I need to start to leverage in-person game, learn more routines and get a better foundation. I'm reading Intro to NLP now as one example...I've also signed up to this board
One step back, two steps forward.
So did hit some stumbling blocks, but one of them is salvagable. I met a girl online (dating site) who seems attractive, funny and intelligent. I started an exchange of messages with some humour and got her phone number. My next step was to jot a few conversation points up and of course, call her up.
The call was less than perfect. I caught her while she was with friends catching a taxi cab to go out. I knew instinctively that I should tell her that we'll talk another time, but I wanted to hone in on setting up a date, so I worked my way through not a bad conversation under the circumstances. Then I let her end the call (big no no), and we said we would meet on Monday, talk first on Sunday.
Sunday I call, she texts and she's tired after a long drive and that we should talk on Monday (already not a great sign of attraction). Monday I assume our date is off and call her around 9:30 pm, no answer. Tuesday call again, no answer. Thursday call, no answer. Next Sunday text her, she's responds that's she's camping. She said she was waiting for my call on Monday and went out when I didn't - so maybe she feels like I stood her up.
So I pull out my last salvo and neg her in a text - I say I'm giving her the "worst dater award". She responds that she's sorry, she lost her job. I text back that I understand (rapport) and give her a helpful job-hunting link.
No contact since then, and in the meantime I noticed she's online on the dating site, when she hasn't even taken the opportunity to meet me.
So to make a long story short, I know my game wasn't perfect here. Somehow during the phone call (usually something I own), her attraction level for me decreased. I think maybe I came across as a 'nice guy'?
All I want is another shot...unfortunately, I've lost confidence in my online game, I have no texting game and I don't think she'll answer the phone if I call. All this is bizarre from my perspective because we could be a great match.
I think probably the best thing I could do is text her and say I'm going to (insert fun event) and she should come if she wants. Unfortunately I can't think of anything like that and I don't know what to do.
Any thoughts would be much appreciated
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