The problem lies with the fact that every single girl that i date, is hotter than the last... I think I still see woman as something to show off, and something I derive my value from

I've been in the game for 4 years now and its been REALLY slow progress... Having said that every girl that I date I end up getting oneitis over...

The last one was an HB8.5 and we met at a place where her family would be at...she didn't want them knowing about us just yet...I wigged out abit and things got weird! lol..F***CCK!!!!!!!!!! and that was 2 weeks ago. I havent been able to stop thinking about this girl and becuase things were PERFECT up until that point its getting be down abit... now i have to go out sarging AGAIN and all i really want right now is a stable relationship with her!

I've read the cycle of Oneitis and I think I know the solution, however any input that you guys may have would be cool

Tx

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That's common. The thing is that you feel like you need a woman in order to validate yourself. Like you are not complete without one. So when you do find one, you put so much pressure on yourself and on them, that things don't work out. But also the more work you put into something, the more you value it; and you always want what you can't have. So you end up investing huge amounts of emotion into these women and at the same time you set it up so that you can't have them.

Think about it, are your feelings ever really directed toward a single particular woman. Or is there an empty spot in your mind, where you picture your ideal woman and your ideal relationship. And every time you get over one woman, you fill that spot with the image of the new woman. And all the emotions of the previous one project onto the new one.

I think that you need to take things one at a time. Don't think so far ahead. Don't think of women in terms of your future bride or anything like that. When you start picturing too far ahead, you screw with your mind's perception of the woman. The mind can't distinguish imagined emotions from truly experienced emotions. From it's perspective you've spent significantly more time together and have a great deal more intimacy than you actually do.

i have that problem u mentioned.. i think too far ahead.. how can i not do that? like not commit this mistake.. its kinda screwing my games...

its been so long since I don't fall in love with a girl that I envy you

my problem is that it seems my standards are up to almost impossible, I get pissed off at a girls personality or lack of it way too fast, and also, Im really picky on looks

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If your girls are not "falling in love" with you the same way you are with them, then you're not building comfort and getting yourself inserted into the little movie called "The Future" that runs in their heads. What I'm hearing is that you want a stable loving relationship - you wouldn't mind a bit of oneitis with a woman for a while. That isn't necessarily a bad thing, esp. if you're been serially dating for 4 years. That's hard fucking work, man.

Maybe women are attracted to your PUA image and they're not seeing the "real" you. Do you let your guard down ever? Do you show them some vulnerability? Do you paint a picture of the things you two are going to do in the future, like the trip to the beach you're going to take this coming summer or whatever?

It also could have nothing to do it you. Your PUA activity may be tuned to catch women in their "party girl" phase, an age or mind-state where they don't really want a relationship. If that's the case, you may need to change your targets or change your game. Maybe go for slightly older but still very hot girls? More "traditional" but still very hot ones?

Women of any age or stripe are emotional creatures and they love to be swept off their feet. They're more emotional than guys, more focused on "the relationship." If you want to move to that stage, talk about 'your relationship' with your girl. Check in with her on that.

My last gf and I were together for 8 months and were effectively engaged to be married, with everything but the ring. We had a signed purchase and sale agreement on a piece of property where we were going to build a dream home and start squeezing out little Smartbombs. She lost her virginity to me. It went from dating to epic relationship because both people were ready for it. It dissolved for a lot of other reasons but that's not the point.

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hey bud, i havent bothered reading the other replies but it frustrates me seeing this kinda filth lol, you must only be getting one-itis because you havent had your heart ever broken bigtime by some bitch that you gave everything to??

Once you have had that happen in your life, you will use the game for good, and know its uses, i would never use the game on a girl im seriously after, coz the game and all its routines and tricks arent really who i am as a person, but i use them and i use them good just for their sole purpose.
So man up and just start slaying those HBs.

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For all of you experiencing similar problems - READ THIS.

Gibbsy and kalel's posts were correct.

If it happens consistently, the problem lies in you.

You have to know yourself inside and out before you can give love and have it reciprocated.

You have to truly love yourself so you know immediately whether or not the relationship is going to work; on your terms.

Discover the essence of your manhood; what drives your personal God-given male spirit.

The women won't leave if they know that they are losing someone who is valuable and aware of what makes him valuable.

Be brave.