Hey guys see if you can help me out with this one.

Shes older and wiser than me, but i have got to build a huge amount of rapport and we have also talked about being something more then friends. we both know we like eachother, but its hard for me to escalate the attraction in person because everytime i bring up a topic about us she always dodges it or changes the subject. yet online all we do is talk about US. i know ill see her again soon, but i dont know how to build the attraction. ive tried some kino too, but again this girl is a woman older than me. doesnt look older but thinks as an older person. shes even religous. but shes soooo gorgous. wife material. and i dont want to mess it all up.
Lately ive been showing too much interest. i always start the convos about her and i and i always ask questions like "do u think about me when Im not with you" and she always responds with things like "maybe" or "thats my little secret just for me"
After i snapped out of it and realized how many ioi's i was giving her i decided to give some space and not talk to her for a couple days because we've been seeing eachother almost everday and talking alot. this is because shes my friends sister.

I know i know messed up BUT, not if you have could intentions. i really like this girl. I've asked her out many times and she tells me that friendship is more important and that she would ruin the my friendship with her brother AND theres the age difference she always loves to bring up. 10 years difference, but doesn't seem like it in any way apart from her maturity.

What could i do the next time i see her alone to increase attraction and build kino too in a safe way or anything to just not end up in the boring friend zone?

Hey Takeher, this is my opinion on your post....
Why would you need to build more rapport with an older woman? I've f-closed a woman 12 yrs older then me with almost no rapport
Seems like you are not in control of the situation?
If she's intrested in you, it normally shouldn't be a problem
This is not good, she must feel like you have more options then her , asking questions like that makes her know you need her approval to feel good -> needy...
This is good, test her, like she would test you did she re-initiate conversation online? or did you have to face her anyway, becuase she passes by ur house?
How long do you know her already? Attraction only happens at the begining, she might have a vision about you already....?

In my opinion just by reading your post, i feel like you are playing a losing game... I don't know what ur conversations etc look like, or what you talk about, this is just based on the post

btw, What's ur age?
and what's her age?

Good luck!

Hey man good points. this girl had me hypnotized for a while. but not that i woke up let me answer some of your questions.

shes 31 and im 21. Ive seen her around saying hi and bye everytime i would go to my friends house through out 7 years. i wouldnt go much though like once every 3 months. BUT we would only say hi and bye to be polite. it wasnt until 2 weeks ago that we really started talking.

let me give you a quick summary.

she give me a ride home one morning we end up parking in front of my house and talking for 3 hours. it was a our first conversation ever and we talked about everything ending the conversation on relationships and what her and i look for. i didn't ask for her number or anything because felt it was too soon. She's my friends older sister who i never had talked to before.

after that i day i had stupidly told my friend i felt something for his sister and he just ignored me in a way and saying to just not talk about it so i didnt. then one day i smoothly get his sisters email. (NOW b4 i go on i need to tell you that ive been satying at my friends house for like a week because his parents were out of town and he lives close to my job. this means i would see her everyday and talk here and there when her bro wasnt around) so once i got her email we me on the messenger and talked from 12:00 am til 6:30 am loooonnnggggg time. i never talked to anyone for that long i just get bored but her and i never stop i guess time flies right. Anyway in this convo we both declared our feeling for eachother. she told me her brother had already told her and so i asked her if she felt the same way. she said yes. after that i told her we should meet up one day. she then gave me excuses like. our age difference, how she would ruin the friendship i had with her bro, how it would be a problem in her family. none of the reasons changed the way she felt for me so i knew it wasnt going to end there. (another thing you i need to say is that this girl is very good and giving IOI'S AND IOD'S all in one sentence, so obviously she confuses me and just wants me to be that way because she knows ill keep yearning for what she reeeeeaaaalllyy feels)
Anyways after that convo things were different. we had a secret that was just between us. and that meant we had a good connection. we would continue talking but i began to feel what u said. "that i wasn't in control of the situation" thats when i woke and decided to back off and look for some help. so in our last convo we had which was on this past saturday i had gotten her number. but i haven't called her yet. in fact i havent gone to her house or on the messenger or nothing. no contact. today is wensday and ive been thinking of calling her tonight. being more in control. and my goal would be to arrange a meet up. build kino and sexual connection and go in for the kiss.

What do you think?