Wotcha Folks.

Am continuing my solo sarge campaign, trying both Bar and Club solo sarging and am seeing marked improvements.

Last night and hit a major sticking point.

Here's the SP.

So I live in a small village and to go Solo sarging in the nearest town I can either get a train (only 2 a night) and a cab home (Bout 30 quid for both).

This is obviously not ideal, (miss trains, am skint etc) so the last couple of times I've driven in, had one beer, been on the soft drinks then driven home.

This works great as I'm not into drinking loads when sarging, and I can afford to go out field testing a lot more

BUT

Last night I got on REALLY great with a girl, comes to the time when I'm going to get her back to mine.

I tell her I live in this village, she goes from code green to code red.

Number close so can follow up.

But frustrating,

How do I work this situation to f closing?

I mean there is a certain......

"It just happened"

Vibe for girls to go back with you on the night, if she gets in a car with you and you drive back to your gaff, it's gonna seem a bit pre-meditated/weird to girls.

How can I stop it being such a big deal?

I mean if I lived in the town she would have been back to mine quicker than a frenchman running from a hot bath


A little help?

Scamps

Hey mate,

Congratulations for your success so far. You have hit a tricky point that is definitely not ideal for 'one night stands'. I can only imagine that going half hour out of town and staying in a little village away from their home is a little too risky.

The best advice I can give you is take the focus off where your going and continue to talk her through it. Take her back to the car, and begin to drive home whilst chatting about something else (keep the energy up so not to lose momentum in the conversation). She will then not get chance to stop and question how far away it is. If you act natural to the idea of going back to yours then I'm sure she will be too.

The next bit of advice would be to tell her when she will be leaving. Suggest to her she comes back for some pasta, but she will have to leave at 2.30 because you have work tomorrow and you will drop her home.

You know that once you get back she won't be going home that night...

My last bit of advice is to change your style of game. Practice your day two game more so that you can bring her back on dates or in the day time when you have built much more rapport and she trusts you more.

Let me know if you have found this useful!

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Hey man, thanks for the reply.
Very useful.

Can definitely see this working.

I guess the problem in this case was that it was essentially pure club game.
Eye contact, dancing, teasing, etc.

Conversation was a a very small part of it, so to move to high energy conversation on the drive home would feel kinda odd?

I mean I could see it working with a cab ride

(keep it high energy, just not with conversation).



Time constraint for coming to my house, again sounds gold.

I reckon my strategy when driving from now on is;

Number close for day 2's
If a ONS is on, Her place or nothing.

I reckon revealing that I drove in to town to go clubbing on my own is a MAJOR DLV?

I don't think it would be that odd, just make sure you do 70% of the talking and keep it interesting so she is intrigued. Talk about her as much as possible as everyone loves to talk about themselves; it's the topic they know best.

There is nothing wrong with pushing for her home. And girls will feel more comfortable with that as they know the surroundings. But if they live with room mates, or even worse parents, then i suggest you push for your house as going back to where others will be could be awkward.

Yes I would probably think they may wonder why, to me and other PUA's we have nothing but respect for you for being so proactive and confident to do solo sarging, but to a woman they may see it differently. The easiest way to get round that is to say you were with friends up until you approached her as you were heading home yourself then anyway.

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I like the "talking about themselves" advice, very sound.


And thanks for the respect for the solo sarging.

It's one of the main sticking points for solo sarging, that inevitable question.

"So you are here on your own?"

Have still not found a 100% answer to this, it often ends up as a bit of a lie to try and restore social proof.

Sample answers

"Nah, my friends are over there/upstairs/at the bar"
(can easily be found out in quieter venues, major DLV if busted)

"Yeah, I was out with the lads but they split and I was having such a good time I thought I'd stay out for one more"
(plausible)


The best being the truth (but can weird some people out)

"I am yeah, I've just moved to the area and going out on my own beats staying in on my own"


The response I haven't tried yet (but plan to when next asked) is;

"Yep" (used with good alpha body language, strong frame)

Maybe followed by

"It's more fun that way"


No wingmen on the horizon and most of my mates suck as wings anyway so will continue field testing the solo sarge. Will write a definitive post when I get my stuff tight!


Scamps