ok some girls i been gaming lately tell me i am too random or weird cuz of my questions, i usually come back with better random then predictable, or you just cant keep up or we. now for a curiosity, what would make me so random, i mean i am always asking questions, but i get really impatient with one question only or waiting for one answer to one question. how can i be no so random, not to qualify myself, but even friends tell me this. they say my questions are random, plus i dont want to neither talk too much or ask so many questions, but they never initiate anything.

I'm pretty random myself, but I try connect the conversations. Can you give some examples of your random conversations?

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sure, heres an example right now. we start to talk about how my fight for mma got postponed, so we i am telling ehr i am angry bla bla. then i jump to how she managed to put a smile on my face, then i jump to how i love psychology, she shit tests me with guys= sex 24/7, i say, no...i sleep too you know. gets a smile. now i jumped to other stuff. but the reason why they say i am random is cuz i will ask a question" so whats your fav animal, or what animal would i be if i was one" then to like " do you like skydiving" or we. but the other topics die, so i switch before they do

Sounds like there is no flow mate. You're sort of doing an energetic interview with them, bouncing to different topics, you should try to inject some fluff talk in between your questions and allow for the other person to ask something or put in one of there stories, that's how conversations work naturally.

To sum it, you are forcing the conversation to be interesting, and not really allowing it to develop, perhaps in fear it could die our or become dull. So you keep injecting new interesting questions, which is fine but not straight after each other, so next time you ask a question like 'What animal would you be?' and the response is blar blar blar, pick something out and say why that's interesting, then lead onto something it reminds you of or wait for her to ask you what animal you would be or whatever.

yea man you are right, ti deals with the fear of silence i guess lol or the fear of not receiving an answer or having to wwait too long for you.

so when there is some sort of silence, what should i do?
and another thing m8, when i am bringing a topic up, i should continue with it for how long, or like if there is silence, what should i do

I think you are over thinking it all a bit too much. Just allow time for the other person to respond, you seem like your trying to hard to get the person to like you, I'm going to take a guess and say you speak relatively quickly too right?

Instead of over analysing things, just think like this, you are a cool, confident guy who is interesting in what you do, weather its MMA, your work or anything else about you. So think whoever you are talking to WANTS to talk to you, you don't need to try so hard to keep them interested, you need to assume they KNOW your interesting, and they want to keep your attention so let them do some of the work.

Try to slow down the way you talk, it's pretty hard and takes a long time, but it will portray you more as alpha. Think only beta males talk very quickly because they think they need to work hard keep the other persons interest, so they talk really quickly to attempt to keep the interest of other people. Feeling that if they slow down then they might lose it...you are ALPHA remember, you talk slower and more collectively, so the girl will try harder to listen, you only talk about interesting stuff, but you know that so you take your time...Get into that mindset my friend and you will have much better responses!

wow, that made my eyes widen lol. very very interesting facts right there. yes i do speak fast and i try to put too many points across too quick, cuz i get desperate to get to the end and close with w.e. taliking more calmly, good advice. i been told i am very interesting but i noticed 90% of the time, these girls stop responding and make me lose my power cuz of me texting them, i guess that when i see the IOI's i tell myself i am in. and then i try to hard to speed up the process, which leads to my downfall.

any other tips on keeping a girl interested, and keeping myself collect and less anxious/disinterested?

and another thing is that i start out topics i am interested in, but my head moves faster then i do lol. and i do over think things,s pecially on person. as when to start kino escalation, wether i should say this or that or we. how can i prevent this minor hold backs and go all out, show i am fucking alpha and show its a privilige she is talking to me. and that she needs to earn me, without lieing to myself or her.

Wow a lot of questions lol...lucky for you I literally had like 12 cans of Red Bull last night and I am absolutely buzzing right now! You are over thinking shit again mate, you seem very similar to me or how I used to be!

You just need to slow down your talking, it will help so much! Tbh you are probably pretty clever and this is how you naturally explain shit, descriptive and fast. I'm slightly dyslexic and I tend to think pretty quick when explaining stuff, like when I start explaining something its like a chain reaction in my head and I get multiple ideas flying through at the same time so I explain stuff very fast to get my point across, this is very beta really.

By slowing things down you help yourself to explain something more logically...fuck me lol I'm chatting random shit now...I must be still very drunk haha. Honestly I'd just start by slowing down when you're speaking and take it from there, the rest should follow! Good luck!

lol man, funny shit. anyway, sometimes if i take too long or stop to relax and catch myself while talking, ill either forget what i said, let toughts come to my head and interrupt, or simply get disinterested.

and this is seen in my personality as well, i like action 24/7. but i am getting close to none cuz of this want lol.

so talk slow, anything else you did?

in reference to your title, dont put "lol" on the end of everything - it conveys passivness and insecurity

i see. i expect not doing that in text either, very good eye. thanks.