Hi.

In my last sarge, I know my body language was spot on, I looked good, I smelt good, and I was friendly.
BUT
I noticed most of the males were very threatened, and im sure the females picked up on it. Needless to say I had an aweful night and as a result I turned back into my old AFC self and went quiet.

I need to learn to win the males' favor.

Please any Advice would be much appreciated.

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And that as they say is that.

You need to learn how to "amog".

Amogging does NOT mean being negative or verbally "beating up" a guy.

I recently picked up a bartender in a 90% male environment during a football game. I had to amog at least 6 or 7 huge black dudes (dunno why but most of them were black).

There are many techniques, but let me tell you the principles, and then leave you with a gem.

PRINCIPLES
1. Always laugh
2. Always remain unaffected
3. Always be seen to be trying less than the other guy
4. Never insult, provoke or be otherwise negative to the guy
5. Lots of guy kino
6. Lots of guy conversation (gym, girls, beer, sex etc).

Now, a technique and example:

1. HELP YOUR COMRADE...TO FAIL

Say a guy comes in and starts hitting on your girl. A chump would:
a) shrink away and let him
b) get defensive and try and "stop" him.

You do either of these and you lose. Remember, we are unaffected. What we do, is we disarm the guy by being nice and becoming friends with him! So do that! Be nice and become friends with him! Ooops, problem you say - but now he's gonna jack your girl! Well, this is the bit where you HELP your friend...to fail. Of course, you're just innocently helping him though.

Example: (In front of the girl); "Mate, you're awesome man, you just came in here and interrupted our conversation that's pretty bold, you must be SUCH an interesting guy. Dude, hands down, you know what say your chat up line to this girl I'm SURE she's gonna LOVE you. You're the MAN dude."

You realise what I did there? I've been nice to him, I've built him up so much, I've HELPED him out. I've complimented him so many times. HE CANNOT BE NEGATIVE TO ME AFTER THIS. If he's negative after I've been so nice, the girl is going to see this and blow him out. But I've done more than this, I've gone in for the killer blow. I've asked him to pick the girl up, put him on the spot (all under the pretense of being nice) and told him to say his shit now. I've said it in such a way that there's NO CHANCE the girl is going to accept him - and even if she does - she's not just going to bend over for him right there!? The guy is doomed to failure.

And you know what happens when he fails?

Guess what, you, the handy comrade in arms are there to pick up the pieces! Just for kicks:

"Hey man, she's a bit of a tough one (hug the girl with a cheeky grin) don't worry man, you've got skills, and look at those arms man you're hench, you need to give me some tips sometime. We'll talk to you later have a good one."

Sympathy...is the final bullet .

Evil.

But nice .

Awesome!
thanks so much dude, I have gotta go try this.

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And that as they say is that.

No worries

Obstacles are just like weeds.

Deal with 'em early while they're small and weak.

Leave em, and they'll come and sting you in the leg later .