Hey guys, I haven't posted in a while since I haven't really been interested in any girls I've met, or rather I haven't met any interesting girls recently, well until now.

Basically my SPAM(I'm a student at Uni) has a friend who's been around recently, and we have everything in common, we live in the same town, love the same films/music/tv programmes etc, and she's smart which I like.

I know she's definitely into me since we flirt a lot with, a lot of banter and play fighting. I'm sure our mutual friends have picked up on it and they must have chatted about this to her, but bit of a problem, she's got a BF. He's at a different uni and from what I've seen in my 3 years here long distance couples never last the test of university.

It would be good to see what other people have done in similar situations, any ideas of how I could get us to hang out alone so we can get to know each other better.

Thanks

~Phate

Why not go see a movie together? Or watch one at her place. Really the possibilities are endless. Tell her you have this awesome movie that she'll love. Play it casual. This worked for me before so why not for you?

If you ask her, and she really likes you, she won't invite your SPAM to join you two. If she does, pick a date where you know your SPAM is busy haha

this is simple, but it will work.

Yea I was thinking watching a film at her place since she only lives on the floor above me would only take a quick "what you up to?" on facebook chat to pop up and watch a film.

Any advice on whether or not to make her jealous, she's round my flat all the time(with our mutual friend), and It wouldn't be too hard to bring round some good looking girl while she was round. Would this do more bad than good?

Thanks man.

Shes obviously into you. The fact that she has a BF shouldnt bother you. She has the right to choose whatever she wants.

Just dont press her into making a choice. As long as she knows that you understand her situation thats fine. So, she has a BF, who cares? That kind of things happen all the time!

You might wanna keep the whole dating thing out of it. Asking her out or asking her to the movies is too much of an eye opener. She will see what she is about to do and that will clear her mind and fuck up your game. She will get ... aaaah... I cant even say the word, bad feelings and regrets...

Better to just let it happen, do friend stuff, just let it happen so that you happen to be alone some time. Have a great time and go with the flow, its flowing in the right direction as it is.

She can claim that she didnt know what she was doing and that it "just happened". That is the best excuse a girl knows. Let her have that. It just happened.

Ezo has great advice as always. But don't take this part too literally and become just a friend, you dont want that.

What I mean is. Go undercover as a friend and strike from below. When sarging your social circle you gotta be extra careful!

So would you say its wouldn't hurt my chances dating other girls in the mean time. There's some American girl I met the other night, I could give her a call to come round for a film or whatever. Will it only help for her to see me with another girl?

Thanks for the advice already given guys.

I would say that it will increase your chances. She becomes a bit jealous if she is already attracted and she will be more attracted if she isnt already.

Ok thanks for the advice guys

There's been an update in this situation which I guess would work well for me.

I'm going out with another girl sometime this week which should help me, but the girl I'm really into has just told me(with other friends about) that shes taking a break from her BF something must have happened over the weekend.

The usual trend at uni is that a couple first go on a break and then get back together to then fully break it off a month or so later. But i know for a fact she won't be seeing her BF for 2 weeks now at least, so any advice on how I could help myself?

Another question I've always wondered is how long should you wait before asking out a girl who has broken it off with a long-term BF?

Thanks in advance