Hi! It's really late, but I've just discovered this forum and I'am having fun posting
So I'am gonna hold it short.
The following things might help, just give it a try.
- Ask a question and try to relate to her. Listen to her answer and try to think of a story that goes about a similar experience.
A quick stupid example:
DS: What do you like doing?
HB: I like fishing, because I love being in nature.
DS: Now way! When I was five my dad took me fishing. For me this was really special because I was the only one who was allowed to go with him. We sat near the river for hours and finally we caught a fish. It was this big and I made a picture with it. He then showed me how to remove the hook and we released the fish again. Bladibladibla etc"
(Sidenote, a girl didn't actually told me she loved fishing. I personally hate fishing, but as you see most of the time there still is a way to come up with a story

).
You can practice this when you are near a window or something. Look outside and maybe you see a tree. Think of a story with or about a tree, etc.
- The next thing is something which some PUA instructor came up with (I can't remember who it was but to me it was really clear).
Most men are really logical and they have learned to ask problem solving questions. The problem with that is that they make things more specific.
Example:
Guy: What do you like?
HB: dancing
Guy thinks: damn I know nothing about dancing --> problem.. so he asks: Which dance do you like?
HB: Ballet
Guy thinks: DAMN I don't know nothing about dancing and I certainly don't know nothing about ballet..
So in stead of zooming in, try to zoom out. Ask:
Why do you like dancing?
What is it you like about dancing?
What emotions do you experience while dancing?
etc.
This way you can still connect over the emotions or over her reasons of doing it.
Same example:
Guy: What do you like?
HB: dancing
Guy thinks: damn I know nothing about dancing --> now he asks: Which things do you like about dancing?
HB: Most of my friends are dancing so I like seeing them there, I like the music and it keeps me in shape.
Guy: Wow really, I play basketball two times a week and some of the great things are that my friends are also doing it and that it keeps me in shape.
Again think of a story or maybe ask a question on which you can relate.
Being genuinely interested is maybe the best advice

Hope this helps. Any questions: just ask!
Dutch Student
PS. Good Night
