I am really good at making first impression. I'll introduce myself, find something interesting to say.. i don't have a problem wit this.. but when its time to re-approach a girl and take it on another problem, i am still in approach mode. Hence, I find myself approaching wth another question, or something really boring... For example, i met this girl a couple of weeks back, never made a move on her. two weeks later, i felt like hitting on her, and so i hugged her when i firstsaw her, and said hi and enganged in small talk and stuf..

later on hat night she was next to the pool table with one of her friends... NOthing came to mind.. I seriouly didn't know what to tell her.. My intentions were to do something really AFCish and say something like "so what do you do" but i was smart enought to hold off on that..

If you see a girl you know talking to another girl which is her friend in the middle of a pool game.. what would you have done.. a better way of stating this question is, "How do you hit on a girl you already know". i've never really hung out with her, but i know her from around (not in the friends zone, yet)..

The best advice I can give you is if you like a girl you need to set the frame up the first time you meet her that you like her and are hitting on her. This is very important because it sets up the interaction for later. It doesn't take girls long to form an impression of you.

When you go back to them the thing you have to keep in mind is this girl has already met you. She has seen you as a regular guy and knows how to are to a degree. Whatever you do don't start going up to girls that you already know spitting out canned lines and trying to act extra suave. It won't be congruent with who they think you are and its going to backfire.

Whatever you decide to do make sure that it stays true to who you are or she'll see through it.

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try to tell a joke or a line that somehow connects them to the previous sitautions... "so any ghost jumped on you on the way home".. if you had a conversation about ghosts; "did you made me that tea?".. if you joked around about her making you tea and cookies...

by the way I have a problem wich reltes to that..

I feel I breached some borders inside of me and my game is pretty solid, BUT I do have a problem to game girls I know, I mean if I didnt started our contect as a PUA by flirting or whatever, i find it difficult to start gaming them
like old friends, or for example we have this cute girl on this course I'm doing now, I do talk to her pretty often and I enjoy spending time with her, but we talked at work on brakes and had jokes, we have some sort of rapport but i didnt flirt with her, how do I make her be totally INTO me

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"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"

I guess in your situation you should just start hanging out with her, and doing ome light kino when your with her... thats what i would do... get her to talk about relationships or something..

not much of an expert with girls i already know (as you can see from this post)

Try to use the circumstances to your creative advantage. In this case, you could have walked up with a smile and said something like, "I'd like to place a bet on this pool game. What odds have the bookies in Vegas set on it?" It'll get the girl laughing, it'll insert you subtly into the situation, and it'll probably lead to a new opening based on the girl's response. Then just take it from there and be yourself.

Dude,

Just try to relax and take in the moment. If you are tense she will know this. Do something fun or funny. Suggest playing a game (like a card-tricks, limbo or something fun) trust me, girls LOVE doing the limbo at parties and guys like watching. I'm sure there will be so many topics to build rapport on that you won't have to dig into your bag for something to talk about.

When things feel right, move in for the kino.

I agree, don't use openers all night long. You can wear them out pretty fast.

Again, above all, RELAX!!!

Best,

J-Dub

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