I’ve had this happen a few times, basically with girls I’ve met in ongoing social situations (e.g. mutual friends, at work etc)

We flirt, she seems interested and we meet a few times socially. I’m not escalating and we’re going towards friend zone.

At this stage they appear to lose interest. So my response is to ignore them some, which has the desired effect of making them come to me and be flirty.

However as soon as I start to flirt again (not escalating just playful banter) they lose interest again. Repeat a few times until we are in the friend zone, and I just see them as attention addicts who are only interested in what they can’t get, but realise that it’s something I am doing to make them act this way.


I’m fairly sure that it’s down to my lack of escalation, just writing this post has help with that. But how do I do it?

Current situation there are these two very hot Russian girls, friends, always hanging out with each other. One is just married but is fun to hang around with and we bump into each other a lot and I like being her friend, plus it’s good social proof.

How do I get her friend? Just ramp it up with something like “You’re really cool, even if I didn’t want to sleep with you I want to hang out with you” ??

you shouldnt reaally mention sex as soon as possible it makes your intentions easy to know.

It is like football they know where the goal is but instead of going in a straight line they have certain tactics to get there

thanks, "I will keep my eyes on the prize"

Hi redrooster,

I would guess that these girls you are flirting with, you are only talking to them? If so you HAVE to KINO!

As for the Russian friend, aim for the married one! Do not go for the target first!

What has worked for me is that i act kind of a dick to these types of girls because what they want is attention! So good push pull could help.

of course still be playful but make the playfullness a little harsh. Also ignore her a bit like you said.

Example from experience (a girl thats fairly tall..5'8 almost as tall as me and we were lining up accordance to height for a school photo):

Me: You know, you're like the tallest chick in our class.

Her: i knowwww!

Me: Yeah its kinda masculine of you

Her: What?! Jerrrrk!

Me: What? Woman have to be at least 5'7 to become a model. You might have potential.

Her: blah blah blah... smiles laughs and all that good stuff.


Something along those lines. Try push pulling on her looks cuz outgoing girls want attention and this way you arn't totally giving her both. And with the Russian chicks, hit on the one that you don't want more than the other one. Usually girls know whos the prettier one in the group and will get confused why she's not getting as much attention from you. She'll beg for attention with flirtyness.