Guys what is the best way to deal with girls who are playing had to get, but you know for sure they like you.

I will just explain it briefly: I was on a bar crawl, everything was great, friendly, just having fun, all the girls in the group were nice to me (when I first met everyone I just knew like 1 person who invited me to the bar crawl) But there was like one girl who was playing all hard to get and I'm gonna say, that I fell into her frame and was like acting as "why don't you like me or why are you being an as to me" because I actually didn't except that behavior and because I never stumble on this, even if I do the hard to get goes away and the girls just become normal.

So now I'm thinking to myself what are the best ways to get the frame back and disarm girls like her, for the next time I stumble on a girl like her?....

Thanks

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V3nu

Dont fuck around with someone playing hard to get. Just move on.

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Mmmm dunno about you but I want to learn and progress...Look at it like this: what if there is only one very hot HB10 in the whole place, you did everything right, you social proofed yourself you neged her a little bit but as you keep vibing she starts testing you and starts playing hard to get...I would like to know how to overcome that behaviour, or even if she keeps doing it, how to coop with it?

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freeze her a while, or try disqualifier...................

One of the things people in the community teach is --Steal her frame-- mentality.

So basicly how this works is, you take whatever she is doing and you interpret it as if she was trying to pick you up and you play hard to get.

For example.. she plays hard to get.. you know its just play.. so you walk up to her..

Is it just me or do you play hard to get with all the guys that you are irresistibly attracted to..

or

.. this playing hard to get while at the same time giving me the eye.. I dont think your game will work on me.. you should try it on that guy over there(pick the worst guy and point to him)

or

Hey, do you have a boyfriend? Um, no.. yea cus I think that guy would be perfect for you (pick the worst guy you can find)


The main thing to remeber with girls who are stuck up or with girls who are really playing hard to get is to amplify your cockyness and make fun of them so it hurts. Ussually these kind of girls are very attractive, so they get approached all the time..by drunk guys spilling beer on them.. If you can show that you are interesting, playfull and serious at the same time, she will respond to you differently.

What you want to be doing is TEASE, TEASE, TEASE... never chase. Never. Period.

They can easily turn things to get you into their frame. But when you have a strong frame of she is trying to pick you up, than you interpret everything she is doing in that way, even if she is doing nothing at all.


And Im not kidding, this stuff is powerfull.

Try it.

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Play harder to get.

Thanks, like I knew I had to flip the frame, but I wanted specific examples....
Is in it in this example you are showing too much interest? Like I agree with all other examples, but this one seems tricky, like she could be: "wtf are you talking about" or something like that, like she will try to make her frame even harder?

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O yea I think she will go into her.. wtf what are you talkin about.. but thats a test.. at that point you have to keep your frame unaffected and say.. dont try to deny it.. I saw you checking out my ass.. I wanted to tell you.. shit aint for free

She will ussually laugh, or open her jaw so it hits the floor.

You have to say it in a congruent way.. with a slide smile and total composure..

Part of your frame is to make shit up and aquse her of doing shit she didnt even do. If she doesnt respond, turn your attention to her friend and ask her... is your friend always like this?

If at that point she doesnt respond you can go with.. Ok, I can see youre too emeressed to talk with cute guys.. and leave

I went out with this kind of girl once and it was a drag.. so dont chase her just because she is playing hard to get.. ussually this kind of girls are the most boring you could ever meet.

O and ussually girls that you think are playing hard to get are not really playing hard to get really. They are ussually shy and affraid of the big bad guys.

This kind of girls want to feel a connection with you first. Before you say anything you need to have strong eye contact. And when you say your line, it has to go deep.

Approach her, look her straight in the eyes for 2 seconds so you establish connection, lean in or tell her to come closer.. but keep you face serious.. dont smile.. and like you are going to tell her something very serious.. than drop the line.. you know.. I really dont like girls checking out my ass in public.. could you please stop doing that?

Or maybe you can start with direct.. I saw you looking at me from here.. so I wanted just to say hi.. so you wount have to think about me all night when you go home

Get it? The frame is ALWAYS she is inloved with you. She is dying to get to know you. She cant wait for you to approach her.

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Good stuff, thanks man

Cheers

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What also worked for me with a girl I knew at uni who flirted with me quite a bit but was playing hard to get, was to use the pre-selection / jealously plotline card.

If she's playing hard to get, freeze her out for a bit, go and have fun with other girls in the bar. When you go back to her, go back with one of the other prettier girls in your arm and give this girl an accomplishment intro.

Get a conversation going with the 3 of you and fire a couple of playful negs in her direction. I'd say that this would put you in a better position with her than you were in half an hour ago.