| I had a guy ask me to break down this text scenario for him-VERY common mistake with most guys-
He said-
"i'm trying to make shit more sexual too. i usually just go for the day2 but i want to get laid NOW Tongue, tell me how im doing.. firsttime contacting this girl.
me: i just made you open your phone for no reason, looks like i got you in check.
her: looks that way doesnt it
me: yup, girls are gross...
her: we just cant resist your sex appeal
me: dont get too horny without me now
her: ill try not too..
now im stuck. any help would be nice"
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Response-
You over-gamed her. A little more calibration would tell you that, but I'll break it down.
There was nothing wrong with our initial text, but when she responded with, "looks that way doesn't it", that was a very non-emotional, uninterested text.
You can base a guys interest by his logic most of the time, and you can tell if a girl is interested by her emotions. That's what they run off, as opposed to most guys.
So the goal isn't to say something funny, it's to get her excited. Sometimes that happens when you send her a funny flirty text. But when you send one and she doesn't respond positively, don't send 2 more like you did. Try something else. Something like-
"Hey! How's your day going? I just had the best swim ever!" or
"You'd never believe what I just saw!"
Get her excited by setting a positive energetic frame. Most of the time she'll follow. If she doesn't, then just be normal. Chances are she's not a girl you'd want to spend time with if she doesn't react positively to any of those 3 scenarios.
Avoid being too gamey. When you think you need to say something funny, say something positive instead. The most addicting thing in the world is the energy of another person.
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A lot of guys try too hard to build attraction via text and phone. A lot of guys have "text balls", meaning they get all cocky funny via text but don't have the balls to get sexual with a girl in person, when they first meet her. So it shocks the shit out of her. The reason I know they don't do the same thing when they first meet them is, there's no fucking way a girl would ever give you her number, let alone respond to a text, if you pulled all that cocky/funny b.s. on her in person. She's be majorly turned off.
They think you are a regular guy who doesn't step the fuck up and let his intentions be known. Instead he hides behind a thick layer of banter lines that only dry her pussy up when over-used. He has "jokes", but he isn't a man. He's another dickless comedian. _________________ www.TheRexStyle.com
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