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the situation that i was talking about is when you have just met the girl.....i mean you met the girl since a minute.
i'm talking about the dancefloor.the girl is dancing,i go close to her and start to dance.my hands are already grabbing her hands and we are dancing close but i didn't have the time to say nothing neiter my name or anythng else.her friend come grab her and pull her in a very rough way and with strenght and both walk away
what should i do then?
Oh, sorry for the misunderstanding. Well let's see if I can still help out a little...
Well it's not like you can grab her other arm and pull her back towards you, so I would play off of what is given: she is leaving you for the time being. If you JUST met her, like you said, on the dancefloor with minimal verbal interaction, you have barely invested anything into her (value, precious time, etc.) if anything at all and like wise in her case. There really isn't any investment attaching her to you which may explain why she usually will comply with her friend and leave.
I would let her walk away and as long as she doesn't leave the venue, you can approach her later. You already opened her in a sense so I would assume she will notice you about the club for the night. I would let her see you talking to other girls or out having a good time just gathering social proof... don't do this for her, do it for you because you want to have a great time with or without her. Wait until she is off the dance floor so that when you approach her later in the night (let time pass so you don't seem like a clingy annoyance) you have time to allow her to invest in you. You can even tease her about the fact that she left you once the conversation has been going. Either make light of it OR don't bring it up at all to show it doesn't bother you. If you do bring it up, say something playful like "Oh, you're lucky you left when you did because I was about to serve you in a dance off." with a smirk.
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i agree with vegas that in some situations can be a good idea but often also happen that girlfriends are envy(and if we are speacking about guys friends is much worse) and they could do everything possible to make you go away.
so sometimes trying to be introduced to her friends can be dangerous i think.you could loose time a and the girl can be convinced by another girl that is not good to kiss you.
so i'm in doubt i don't know if is worth try to know their friends.....for sure can work but can be also pointless....what do you guys think?
The bolded parts are things that work against you. Yes, her friends can try to make you leave, and yes, they have the power to convince her not to kiss you... but if you took the time, no matter the duration, to just extend yourself to her friends, it would reduce the chances of them doing something to spite you. Give them just a minute of your time to be cool with them, and if they see youare a COOL guy and you just like to have FUN, well hell, they may approve of you and encourage her to hang out with you. Also, you never know who you will meet through them.
For example, last year in college it was first semester and I was at a club. I approached a table with three girls and two guys. When one of the guys got up from sitting next to my target, I went and took his place. I asked my target for a light and teased her on the kind of cigarette she was smoking (Newports
are like a step below crack

). It sounds dumb, but it was a reason to keep talking. At first I got a negative vibe from the other girl and I could tell she didn't want me there. I ignored that feeling and stayed anyways.
I started bullshitting around with the remaining guys and they quickly accepted me. I made a point of
having my target introduce me to the other girl since she was being "too quiet for her own good". When the guy who originally left came back, the quiet girl told him to leave and then went on to tell me how
he was creepy and just sat down and started hitting on my target. He made
no effort to make the others around him comfortable and in return
they didn't want him there.
Even though it didn't go anywhere after that, both girls are now really good friends of mine and we hang out regularly.
Moral of the story is: I still think befriending those around you and those associated with her is a good idea. It reduces the chances of being looked at negatively. People, in most cases, seek the approval of their friends. If your friends were hyping up a girl and you met her, your perspective of her would be greater than if your friends were talking negatively about her. The goal is to get her friends to speak positively of you so her perspective shoots up. It's like creating social proof out of her friends.