| Hey Guys,
I can barely remember the last time I bothered to post a blog here
Mainly due to the fact that nothibng remotely newsworthy has happened to me in the feild for almost a month now..
Yes, I have got all them IOI's and silly near misses, But this month has yeilded no F closes. Now, I know I shouldnt be so validation needing but for the work I have put in, I would think fortune would smile on me. I have a few barriers, I do not yet have my own place, or a licence, or a job for that matter... so, all F closes need be facilitated by her.. or damn near in public.
Because of this, I dont feel the power to just "pull"
I was very close last night..
In the course of the night, you have many little interactions with people. With time you generally forget how you got started speaking to them and assume repore. This would be one of thoes instances with this girl, We were bantering... I asked for her to get me a lighter (compliance test obviously) and she went well out of her way to do it for me.
she comes back, very proud of herself for pleasing me. I pat her on the head and she gives me that primal, yes you can fuck me look... I say "you have a good girl face, but every so often... you make these bad girl mannerisms" she replied "I will be your bad girl if you want"
I am thinking, like Jeffy would... time to EXTRACT THIS SHIT
now, this girl is the birthday girl.. and has freinds floating around.. It is 12pm and I am thinking boundcing may be a little premature... So I lead her to a table, where we have light banter and I get into some palm reading (for some reason... I think I am gonna quit using it)
Next thing I know, Fatty freind pops up... Now that is ok, she is actually freindly enough. however, sits a little out of hearing distance to me... yet still wants to be engaged in conversation... so, Bearing this i am feeling the need to retranslate everything I say to my target... to her, CRAP
probably couldve handled THAT bit different
then in comes a male freind, that i think is gay, he sits on my targets lap and hops around... making any escalation on her near impossible.... good amogging my gay cousin...lol
she then gets lead off, she says she will come back but I dont stay to muck around and get into another set of girls.
Now,... this is a pretty good outline of the kinds of little niggling things that happen regularly in set that I am yet to get over, between this... and sometimes knowing if it is right to escalate.. like when the girl is standing with u heaps, but not touching you or giving you strong signals...
In hindsight, when I lead THIS particular girl off.. I could have taken her to the bar, and a bit further from the freinds... K closed as soon as practical... and bounced her for 20 minutes up to a park or something
I can see that now but, How do you come to see all these things while your in feild?
also, another thing which is hard for me is D floor game
I am a goodlooking guy, who can kinda dance... Id come close to saying the swaying of my hips and the tapping of my feet borders on homo-erotic lol. However, I have a hard time opening girls on the D floor that dont give me mass signals beforehand, I just enmd up too stepping around the whole floor scanning for IOI's and groups to invade because for the most part.. I dont have my own
I am sure that is creepy
I need to have a few things in my arsenal for the D floor, and not just the spin... unless the chic is already initating kino after the spin, i generally dont start touching much.. even if i am dancing so, il need to learn how to make my dancing more for 2 then just 1.... haha
So in summary, I need D floor openers and escalation,
Tools to learn if I can extract or not
How to force IOI's
Openers where words wont work....
WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK CAN HELP?
Also, while I am talking game
I have been gaming for around about 9 months now.. It has been a large slab of my life during this time...
I have gone out on average twice a week for the whole time
and, when I reflect on my 'Mini relationships' in this time... I have had about 7 girls pass through in this time
they usually last about 2 to 3 weeks on average
but for some reason, they never come to the point where there over the moon for me
the only time i feel they have that primal attraction for me is in the meet up and F close
other then that I feel I could be taken or leaven by them.... which shouldnt be where I am at, seing as I am 100% cooler then most guys (readers excluded)
For some reason, It loses steam... always
somewhere between the SMS's... now, I am not a guy that sms's all the time.. just when I have a random thought and feel like it... But that shouldnt even matter really... by now it should have just worked out for longer.... I should have caught up with these girls more then justa few times... but i dont feel the burnign desire on there end.. which sucks'
My social circle, Is all but non existant outside of PUA's and a few potheads
I dont have that cool life or the cool freinds that make this shit easier
every approach I make is a cold approach
I almost feel as if I would have nowhere to take a relationship if i had one!
I would love to have one night stands however, I dont know how to screen for girls looking for that
I think maybe the reason why the fade out happens could eb because intentions arent made clear on both sides? I really dont know... But I would love any help you may have
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