I'm good with attraction but haven't had a lot of experience actually making a girl feel like she would be safe in a relationship with me. They mostly seem to think I'm a player.

So if I can just use one girl as an example;

(Background)

She's easily a 10 by anyone's standards, and we met at a party, and other than some quick chats, our first interaction was awesome - she came around looking for a seat in a circle of us where there were no free seats, and when she came in and hovered awkardly for a moment, I looked up, and then patted my lap and sat back in preparation. She took the hint and mumbled "can I just..." and sat right down on my lap. We had our arms around each other for the whole conversation and even were snuggling our heads into each other.

She had to move away for work, but intends to move back one day. I feel like we've got each other on the cards for when that happens, but we're seeing other people right now of course. We've been flirting a bit online, and I got her to send pics of herself in a bikini being flirty, completely unprompted. She's said things like "Geez, you are the only guy who gets it!" after I talk about my openminded views on how I like to treat my girlfriend (eg. not being jealous and over protective).

She's coming to visit at the end of the year and said we're definitely meeting up. But my idea below is for after she's moved back and we are able to meet up often.


(My idea to start a relationship)

Okay don't laugh, but I just want feedback on this plan. And this could be for any future girl, not just this one. But this idea is based on how high demand she is, and her previous misogynistic and/or over-protective boyfriends that have made her wonder if she's better off being lesbian. This is what I would do, after we've hung out together for quite some time and it looks like I have to make a move;

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On a particularly nice outing, a picnic, take her on a long walk on a specifically scenic route. Then at a nice view, put your arms around her waist, and tell her about how she gets a tick in every box (list all the things I like about her). And then quote the reasons why you are good for her (list some ways that we have had fun together).

Then throw it into question and even put a somber tone in your voice. Say - But in the past, that has never been enough for me to go single. There's one, undefinable quality I'm looking for in a woman, and it's not tangible, and it's not quantifiable. But it's very special, and it's very rare, and I know it when I feel it. Do you know what it is?

She will say No.

Say - I have to be drawn to her.

Pull out a rose, and say - [Name], I'm drawn to you.

Hold it there and see what she does. Hopefully she kisses you passionately. Then afterwards you can say "So, as I was saying, before I was rudely interrupted - we should start dating. Agreed?"

If she doesn't kiss you, you can just say "We should start dating, agreed?"