| There are many others here much more capable than I at answering this, and I'm sure I'll stand corrected myself, but here's my thoughts:
I say unleash on her the sexual beast that's inside of you; but be subtle and gradual or you'll freak her out. Don't show her the beast, but start showing her that you are a sexual creature. You want it to be as if she's already yours, you just haven't gone through the formalities yet.
Start making the frame sexual. Be benign at first. For example, if you're talking/chatting before bedtime ask her what she wears to bed (if she says pj's I neg her). Even something as mild as asking her if she likes anklets is conveying your sexual interest. But be comfortable in asking - that's critical, I think. Keep the mood light. (You never know what will spark the flame, the mission is all but accomplished if this all results in her having a good dream of you taking her pj's off, but give her nightmares and you're done, lol).
I guess you have to feel that sexual urge, interpret what you want to know, then have the balls to ask her. Do you want to know if she's wearing thong underwear? Do you want to know her favorite sexual position? Ask her. What's she gonna say, "never talk to me again, pig"? Lol, not right off anyways. Just know where she's drawn the lines (but you don't know until you discover - and there's just one way to do that). When you find them don't take a big step over, just keep poking your foot across until she re-draws the line. Then do the same thing with the new line.
You'll need to break from that ljbf zone and one way to do that is to get sexual. If you go too far too quick, or if you're already thoroughly stuck as just a friend, she'll (try to) tighten you up on your crudity, innuendos, etc. Ignore her or mock her unless/until you sense she's serious about her admonishments. Then it's time to plow. That's when I take the opportunity to reject the ljbf notion to her. As if the realization suddenly hit me, I'll tell her something like: "Ohh nooo! You're kidding me. You're not really trying to put me into that dreaded let's just be friends situation are you? I warn you, it won't be easy, you'll have me screaming and kicking the whole way there". (make it sound funny)(also, you've warned her that you'll continue to reject the notion). If she insists, I'll say something like "if it's that important to you we can make-believe that way for a while". If she rejects the make-believe part concede, "whatever you say, boss". Then, depending on your dynamics, you might follow up with a (ahem) compliment such as "you know, I like that you try to be so dominant, it's admirable". By saying "try" the implication is that she hasn't succeeded in being dominant, i.e. putting you in the ljbf zone, but more importantly, the word dominant, itself, maintains that sexual context. Too, if she recognizes that and gets mad you can play dumb and counter that you were merely complimenting her strength of character.
Regardless, go right back to the innuendos and such (sooner or later, depending on how hard you've pushed). Why? Because it's your nature to be sexual. You have to convey that you are sexual. Very sexual. Blame it on her - you can't help it, she makes you that way.
Be sensitive to her though. You don't want to really piss her off. Know when to let the beast rest for a bit, but always steer back that way. Why? Cuz it's your nature. 3 steps forwards and 2 steps back is often the trudge out of the ljbf zone, and there's a good chance you'll anger her more than once along the way - that's why it's far better to avoid it to start with. Ljbf & one-itis is a tough situation.
If she locks you hard into ljbf and she won't let you plow out, walk away. She might just follow you.
Just don't exhibit a drastic change in character, get there gradually.
Good luck to you.
I welcome the critique of others here.
Almost forgot, I wanted to add this. I found it the other day.
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WOMEN'S ENGLISH:
1. Yes = No
2. No = Yes
3. Maybe = No
4. We need = I want
5. I am sorry = you'll be sorry
6. We need to talk = you're in trouble
7. Sure, go ahead = you better not
8. Do what you want = you will pay for this later
9. I am not upset = Of course I am upset, you moron!
10. You're very attentive tonight = is sex all you ever think about?
MEN'S ENGLISH
1. I am hungry = I am hungry
2. I am sleepy = I am sleepy
3. I am tired = I am tired
4. Nice dress = Nice cleavage!
5. I love you = let's have sex now
6. I am bored = Do you want to have sex?
7. May I have this dance? = I'd like to have sex with u
8. Can I call you sometime? = I'd like to have sex with u
9. Do you want to go to a movie? = I'd like to have sex with u
10. Can I take you out to dinner? = I'd like to have sex with u
11. Those shoes don't go with that outfit = I'm gay
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Share it with her, laugh about it together, then use it. For example, you are saying something like: "...blah, blah...I just want to make it easier for you." then add on something like "and the translation of that is...?". Get a laugh but the implication is strong.
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