Okay so I'm going to give a short history as to how I met this girl and what transpired, hopefully somebody can explain to me what I did wrong or what it was I did that caused me to fail this test.....

So we were at a club (which I rarely rarely ever go to), and one of my friends was outside smoking a cigarette so I went outside to talk to him for a little bit and to see if there were any girls to talk to etc. (Apparently it's basically impossible to try to talk to a girl inside the club since the music is too loud and nothing gets through).

So, I see these two pretty attractive girls sitting on the curb and one of them is smoking a cigarette. I pull out my cigarette and tell them that I know one has a lighter and they are going to give it to me. One giggles and obliges. So I ask them how their night has been, and they respond "AWESOME" so I say "Okay why don't you tell me, what was so awesome about it?" One starts telling me about the house music they were playing, so I started telling her a little bit about how my roommate was a DJ and spun electronic music, etc. We small talk a little bit and she laughs so I point out how goofy her laugh is and how silly she looks making it. She semi-blushes and tells me about her dimples. I bust on her a little more about that.... she starts showing me her tattoos and stuff trying to show off how "cool" she is or whatever....

My friend now starts showing her his fake ID and showing it to her. So I pretend like I've never seen it before and say that I wanna see it too, I reached around her, grabbed her arm that was holding the ID, held it up and put my face right next to hers so that we were touching and "looked" at the ID. She reciprocated to this and seemed like she was into it so I felt like I was in....

We talk a little more, she asks me if I wanna go dance, I said something like "maybe, if you could handle me" or something equally silly..... we talk a little bit longer, I finish my cigarette and out of the blue say "okay its time to do it", I grabbed her arm and pulled her away from her friend and my friend, I didn't think twice about it or act as if she would resist, and she was like a laser beam just went right with it. While I was pulling her back into the club she even said to me "are you for real right now?" ...

After she said that I felt like if I got this girl on the dance floor just a little bit I had her for sure.....

So while we were walking through the club I led her a couple different directions and made sure she was just doing whatever I went with and it seemed like she was digging it.... we got on the dance floor and started dancing for like, I'd say maybe 5 minutes (it was house music so I couldn't get real close up on her or anything, but I was doing a little bit of kino here and there as I could). At one point I had her grinding up on my leg for a couple seconds, but couldn't sustain it.

ANYWAYS, so after about 5 minutes some random dude on the dance floor dancing by himself centers himself towards her and she centers herself towards him. I knew immediately this was some type of test to see how I would react, so I figured the best thing to do was to act like it wasn't a big deal, if she wanted to dance facing the dude, I'd do it also. So after about maybe 10 seconds of this tops she straight walks off. LOL. I definitely didn't see her again after that. She probably thought I was gay or at least bi .... I definitely didn't touch the dude or anything like that at all, just more of a fact that I was acknowledging that he was there and that I didn't care if she was trying to dance w/ other dudes.

So what did I screw up? Should I have looked for the next closest girl and tried to dance towards her like this girl was doin to this dude? Or should I have made my move a bit sooner? I felt like there were a couple points where it was getting close that I would be able to kiss her. Maybe I missed a couple signals that she was ready to be kissed already. Not sure. I was about to pull her off the dance floor like a minute or so before this happened, but she said she wanted to dance more. Maybe I shouldn't have let her, I was super tired as it was since house is kinda tiring to dance to in general.

I know this was super long winded, so I'll just end it at that. What should I have done and how did I screw up?

might be wrong someone could point it out to me but sounds like cat string theory to me best thing to do is acting like it dosn't bother you. Like you said i would have danced with like the nearest girl or whatever and let her come back. I think by you also facing the guy showed that the guy was more value. Thats just my thoughts on this.

awsome job on opening and everything tho it showed confidence! and isolating a 2 set is pretty tough.

hope this helps anyway

Thx for the props but really it was just two chicks sitting on a curb looking dumb so I just went up and told them to give me their lighter, then asked why their night was as good as they said it was. Not a whole lot to it I think....


Anyways, I think you're right that I recognized that I needed to act like it didn't bother me, but took it one level too far as I probably made it seem like I was trying too hard to make it seem like it didn't bother me. GOD. Knowing the correct assumption to base my decision on, yet my whole life I've had trouble like this thinking one level too far in the wrong direction.

Still was very weird how she seemed super into me then straight walked off. I turned around maybe 3-4 seconds later and I couldn't even see her walking away, poof, she was already gone LOL.

I think I coulda pulled her off the dance floor and sat her down and made one comment then just been able to make out w/ her. ugh. Well, next time I guess?

In a few dance game posts it lays out limits for how long to dance with a girl.

I'd recommend to always follow your instincts. When you felt you had enough dancing, maybe you could have isolated her. If she was compliant before dancing you should be able to bounce her wherever.

Perhaps she saw you were done dancing and her saying "Let's keep doing it" was a shit test to see your response. When you let her get her way she lost interest? Just a thought.

Firstly I think you should've escalated slightly earlier. You made the confident move of taking her to the dancefloor, but 5 minutes of just dancing in front of each other is not gonna build any attraction, trust me I've done the very same thing as you.

Anyway, it's slightly risky but what I think you should've done is just walked away back to your friend and her friend outside. Then she would've been the one thinking about you and hopefuly found you outside rather than you thinking about her now.

That's like really awesome advice, especially for someone like me who isn't at the point yet where I'm coming from an abundance mentality. I've GOT to use this one. Thank you for pointing it out dude.