Hey this is new for me - a girl in our social group was giving me definite IOIs and yet I can't even imagine what kind of "meet ups" we would have that wouldn't be typically AFC "Hey want to go for coffee".

I did have a time bridge for dancing lessons but last 2 times she had something on and I gave up reminding her when the class was on, to avoid seeming AFC.

I can't do the "hey I'm going to shopping center X for some shoes, I need some female advice..." etc. one of the mundane outing thingys, because she lives several suburbs away and there are several major shopping centers between us, it just wouldn't be convenient - if we met up, it would be about meeting up with her.

Our group is having social outings soon, but they are weeks or months apart, and maybe not even that, so if she's expecting something more (in which case it's probably too late anyway) I'd have to meet up with her sooner or more often than that.


So I'm wondering if anyone else has been in that situation.

...TBH I think it's much better if I miss out on dating her, than try for her and come off AFC, because I have a (well earned) rep in the group for being good with girls, and having the girls in the group pay more attention to me than the AFC guys is great for DHV to people both inside and outside of the group. Plus I keep finding myself thinking that I'm not personally attracted to her yet, and the only reason I am thinking about following her up is because she's so hot and often the prized girl, or one of them, and (in spite of popular belief) I haven't actually dated one that hot yet. Right now I'm just counting on our social gatherings to be the opportunities to see if this will go anywhere.

Time-bridge for something like a party. But ask her to go to your house so you can have her opinion on clothes to wear, or say that you have a surprise for the party you want to show her first.
But make sure you guys have a high enough comfort level first

Or you can meet up somewhere for shopping (w/e), and then tell her you want to show her something cool at your house afterwards.

Thanks!

Okay I guess that while she was giving me definite IOI's, they're not strong enough for me to believe I could get away with asking her out like that.

For better or for worse, I'll just leave it till the next party, and keep building attraction then, even though it's so long away and there's a chance she expected more before then... because I definetly don't want to drop the ball on this one, it wouldn't be worth it.

Yo conker, I'm still in the same delima lol, the difference is that this doll giving definite IOI's has a BF that is not in our social circle lol.

Hahah sounds like a daytime soap opera