I hang out with this girl all the time through mutual friends, and she constantly says we should do things. Like we should go hiking, or have coffee, etc. Sometimes I agree to go, sometimes I sort of blow her off and say "yeaaaaa", and sort of ignore she said anything.

She is definitely comfortable around me and attracted to me to an extent. My problem is when I am the one to offer to go do something, she blows me off. I don't call her much (maybe that's part of the problem). Instead we text, and if I ever ask her out through text she says "I'll get back to you..." and I never hear from her. This pisses me off, not really because I wanted to hang out so bad, but because I feel like my time has been wasted, and I have been disrespected.

At that point I just say "fuck it, not worth my time" and I just cut off contact completely until the next time I see her. And the next time she will of course try to get me to hang out, and I will either ignore her because these mixed signals are stupid, or let her talk me into hanging out again.

This is not a new situation for me, I am constantly in this limbo with women. It's usually with someone I am not really into, but who are basically persuing me.

How do I get from this strange in between zone, to dating these women on my own terms?

I had that problem too. In fact your situation sounds EXACTLY like the one I "was" in before.

If you know for sure she's avoiding you, then drop it. Go after another chick.

I actually picked up another girl right in front of her walking in on me. I could care less.

If you know she's playing mind games try to make certain. It would be SO much easier if the chicks would just say straight up, Listen, I don't want to hang out. Instead they do all the mind games instead.

I think where I went wrong was when I got the mentality that I had to now show her that I liked her after I knew she liked me. Something along those lines felt very AFC. I even tried to do it in a non needy approach. It didn't seem to work.

In conclusion,

you MAY have come across as liking her and maybe she wasn't ready to accept that idea. I like to coin the term power player.

Make sure your always the one in control. When your mentality becomes the one who needs to chase rather than the one who is chased, you sorta fumble.

I would cut all contact and just resist trying to talk to this chick. Pick up another one.

After getting semi worked up gaming this chick, I felt a bit depressed to be honest. I put too much effort into it.

Too much effort can turn into attraction. This may cause you to think, gee this girl is really special. She doesn't like me. I want her more!

Find another girl and you'll probably be just as happy. Remember "Be the power player"

As cellarman posted before, i m kinda in the same situation.

Played perfect game, she chased me, i then put in too much effort and now i find myself chasing her. Advice that has been given to me was:
- take a step back, wait and reposition
or
- just let go and move on totally ( like dont answer anything)

Good luck, it is hard.