Hey guys, I"ve been approaching a girl for the last 6 months. Apparently I should've shortcut the approach to 2 months if only posts and discuss with you guys here. Big regret!! Now although she shows me attraction, my game is rusty!!!

My outer game and confidence is now broken. I lose my personality. I don't really know how to say it but, I always wanted to be a guy who's funny and able to make my friends and the girls laugh. In conclusions, I want to make myself POPULAR!

So that's why for this 1 last week I try to push myself out of my comfort zone. I try to make jokes on every occasions. Am I trying too hard?? I should say though I'm feeling good because I dare to push myself out from my comfort zone, I almost lose all of my conversational skills now!! I lose my skills to transition the conversation to a more personal and deeper level.

What should I do now?? Should I get back to my old self?? Sorry I might sound arrogant, or egoistic but, back in my hometown I was popular and a funny guy, but I wonder why all of my jokes doesn't work in the city I'm currently living. And it doesn't work to the hotter girls, they just can't understand. Strange but that's the fact!! Hahaha...

Any help would be really appreciated on this.

Thanks!!

Your best pal,
Steven

Are you saying that when you moved, you lost your skills?

Maybe you just lost your nerve.

Of course your jokes won't work if you're worrying in the back of your mind if they will work or not. The only way to make it work is to get behind it 100%. If your reality is strong, they will buy into it. Even if they pull a face, it's not the end - it never is, it's just part of it - maintain your "go for it" attitude and you will blow right by any negative responses and see how insignificant they are. I do it all the time, and also see it fall apart the moment I let a negative response get to me. So I know it works because I can see when I don't do it, it doesn't work. If you let any doubt creep into your mind, it will make you falter, and that's what you have to avoid - don't doubt yourself. Save that for times of careful contemplation, alone. In the moment you have to act, no matter what.

Also you make yourself popular by behaving popular, not "trying" to be popular

Go Skydiving.

Whoa2, thanks Conker. That's a big help!! I'll try it on the school tomorrow.

What I don't understand is that, actually I've tried to do the same stuff for a lot of times, maybe hundreds but what always happens is that, I got really bad headache after trying this, and still don't get result!!! But this time, things just got worse, it's like I can't concentrate on everything I do, sometimes I'm just blattering saying random words. So please understand if my language in this post is quite weird.
Just like something is going really wrong in my brain.

Do you guys think that this is because I push myself too hard???


And half-natural, thanks for your advice on "go skydiving". That'd be a great experience. It'll be a very good experience to talk too. But I don't see how it relates to PU. Please explain it to me.

Thanks,

Best pal,
Steven

Whoa2, thanks Conker. That's a big help!! I'll try it on the school tomorrow.

What I don't understand is that, actually I've tried to do the same stuff for a lot of times, maybe hundreds but what always happens is that, I got really bad headache after trying this, and still don't get result!!! But this time, things just got worse, it's like I can't concentrate on everything I do, sometimes I'm just blattering saying random words. So please understand if my language in this post is quite weird.
Just like something is going really wrong in my brain.

Do you guys think that this is because I push myself too hard???


And half-natural, thanks for your advice on "go skydiving". That'd be a great experience. It'll be a very good experience to talk too. But I don't see how it relates to PU. Please explain it to me.

Thanks,

Best pal,
Steven

Because worrying and overthinking is for neurotic pussies. Nothing says ALPHA male than fearlessly jumping out of a fucking plane.

Sounds like you have an issue you haven't acknowledged to yourself.

Why are you saying words randomly? Why can't you think before you speak? Is it because you're so scared that you have to make a good impression that you're trying to talk all the time even if it doesn't make sense?

Whatever feeling you're getting in these situations, you have to work out what it is and why it's happening.

Yeah, I think it's my problem. Sometimes I'm trying too hard to make a topic to talk with my friends. And when I can't find any, I got bored and that makes the situation worse. I'm starting to have terrible headache, I'm getting frustrated of myself not being able to give value to my friends. And in the end I'm sitting alone in the corner thinking, "why I can't enjoy myself and my friends' companion. Did I do anything wrong?? I must try harder to give value"

I think it's because of wrong mindset?? I always worrying that my friends won't like me anymore because I can't add any value to them. My motto is:
"Leave people better than before you meet them". Maybe that's why I can't enjoy myself??

I need a help on this guy, I promise I'll try it out in the field and just read. We all hates keyboard jockeys,right??

Thanks for helping.

Best pal,
Steven

Yeah I think you are subconsiously aware of your problem because you mentioned it - you're trying to hard. You are worrying too much, and worrying doesn't help anyone, and definetly is NOT alpha male.