Hello,first of all I just want to thank those of you who have helped me out on here before, you have helped to change my life around. I have now managed to earn myself the nickname of Cookie (watch skins) when it comes to girls lol.
Basically last friday me and my wing brought to hbs over his house, where we had a few drinks and mucked about together. The two girls told us about there relationship problems, one of them had a bf (who she split up with that night) and the other one had been seeing some guy (who she also finished with that night) lol. After a while of talking I ended up kiss closing the prettier hb, whilst the other two were out the room, they returned and somehow whilst pulling the prettier hb the other one lent over and joined in (three way pull amazing), one thing led to another and we ended up having sex, now we couldnt keep our hands off each other or stop kissing and fell asleep in each others arms and woke up that way too. I dropped her home the next morning and got a kiss good bye, but didn't get her number (was hungover lol). Couple days past and i added her on facebook, looked on her profile and all her girl mates had written comments like naughty girl etc, (turns out she was a virgin lol). Spoke to her one facebook and she seemed okay with me and got her number then, text her later that day and never got a tb, so thought that a was bit weird, i text her again the day after to say i had found her bracelet, and she said it was hers, then went on to tell her that she should come see me again some time this week, once again no text back...
A day later i speak to one her mates and she asks me if i like this girl or not and i said i think she cool and that i do kind of like her, her friend told me that she likes me back and that she is in a confusing position at the moment. Later that night i text to ask if friday meant anything once again no text back, so was getting annoyed to say the least as I just wanted to know where i stand with her.
This morning low and behold she speaks to me on facebook, i ask if she wants to meet this weekend, she says no its not a good idea, as she likes some other guy and doesnt want to fuck it up with him and that friday night shouldnt of happened, and it didnt mean anything, which I know aint true. She apologised for everything and said that we should be mates and all, but that she really doesnt want to fuck things up with this guy (who is an arsehole, using her whenever he feels like it). Friday was the first time I have ever met this girl so she knows nothing about me and doesnt know me.

The problem is I cant keep this girl out my head, and will change my ways for her, I have never felt so good before as I did when kissing and holding this girl, usually after sleeping with someone or getting with them thats it, I dont really have anything to do with them, but this girl she has just taken over my mind, I'm willing to keep trying and get her to know me.

How do I get her to realize that I'm the one she wants to be with, whenever I have spoken to her its always over facebook, the answers she gives me are short and the questions are always one way. How do I manage to get her to want to know me and be with me??? Or do I give up???

Please if you have any advice, can you tell me it, as I'm going out of my mind over this girl

Thanks for reading this

TYBG

First of all stop putting any pressure on her whatsoever. Don't ask her anything to do with the two of you. Chat to her on facebook like a friend, but make it interesting. Tell her some mad shit that you've been up to, a few subtle dhvs, give her an insight into who you are and why your life is exciting.

This is the basis of your stategy from now on. Talk to her like it means nothing, you just enjoy talking 2 ppl. Then when you're on facebook with her, try and do a little comfort building stuff, cos it sounds like that might have been lacking from the original interaction.

Think about what you represent to her... she was a virgin and she acted out of character, this means when she thinks of you remind her of excitement and naughtiness. The problem is thse things aren't part of how she sees herself, so as you are you will never correspond with her view of her day to day identity.

So show your sensitive side, tell her something you did when you were a kid. Show her that you are more than just excitement and naughtiness, but dont let go of those two things completely. You need to represent a normal guy with an interesting life and a cool personality, but one who has a dangerous edge (i.e. the ability to make her act out of character). Balance these two sides, you need to be normal enough to give her a reason for her to tell herself, when she asks should she see you again, but dangerous enough to keep an edge over this chump shes chasing after.

So strategy:

1. Stop the talk about you and her, just vibe. Set up a regular facebook corresponance, but make it clear its just cos its cool 2 chat. Show your personality, but be extra careful not to look like you're trying to impress her. This will fuck you up.

2. If you text her make it something relevent to the facebook chat, e.g. "oh yea I forgot to tell you...."

3. Once the low pressure vibe is established, invite her and her friends on a night out with you and your friends. Make sure she knows its just for fun, and you don't want anything more. (If possible, game another girl and get her to write on your facebook wall, so it looks like you're in demarnd and dont need her.)

4. If she comes out. Dont give her too much attention to start with, just be the alpha and talk to everyone, then later comfort build more, then escalate and kiss close, continue from there.

Good luck man.

Thankyou mate, a few of my girl mates have suggested I blank her and not speak to her for a week so that she misses the attention, and that maybe something may of gone wrong between her and this guy she likes... One of my wings said I should, email her in the next few days and say that I want just one chance to just let her get to know me not as a date but to take her out as friends, and to just offer an ultimatum that we have one chance and that it... Any ideas

Thanks TYBG