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i'm new to this so i'm kind of confused. i met this girl at a friends birthday and got along really well. like we where talking straight from 12pm to 5:30am on our first night, but somewhere in the middle of our conversation she mentioned to have a boyfriend so i'd stop "hitting on" her. that was on the end of January
i met her again in mid's march at a friends meeting and got to show her some of my rock climbing pictures on facebook and mantained a decent conversation that night as well. so a few days later she mails me (i haven't gave her my mail, she just remembered it from me logging in on facebook) and asks for my msn. so i add her up on my friend list and the next day y find an offline msg "just coming by to say hi" then we chatted for an other hour, she mentioned her boyfriend a couple of times. but at the same time she accepted an invitation for dinner at my place which turned into an invitation for going out dancing on saturday. and asks for my phone number. she calls me 2 days later just for a 30 min conversation and then again somewhere in the middle of the week for a 25 min talk.
Saturday night:
So i cooked for her, and we went dancing. had a great time and all but. somewhere in the middle of the conversation she tells me that her friends where not staying at her apartment so she had a spare room and that i could stay over. but at the same time she starts talking more frequently about her boyfriend which gets kind of annoying so by the end of the night i take her home and she says "so do you wanna come in?"
Me: That depends, are you going straight to bed?
her: of course.
Me: that's lame, ok, so i guess i'll walk home. (we live kind of close)
Her: are, u sure? ok, then call me when u get there
me: i won't you've got to sleep so get to bed and sleep tight.bye.
on my way home she phones me to know where i was and i tell her not to worry that i'll text her when i get home.
then i sent her this "oww walking sucks, should have stayed at your place. buy hey, i'm not that easy, this was just our first date. so, there is this salsa classes on Thursdays 10pm, wanna join me? btw got home safe. take care, good night.
in the morning she called me and agreed to join me for salsa. and then talked about some other stuff. so then i assumed she was comftable with the implicit content of the txt msg. But she then calls me back at night, for another 25 minute talk and in the middle of the conversation (after mentioning her boyfriend again) that if i was being serious on my msg, and that she wasn't planning on doing anything to me XD. and this made things kind of confusing.
can anyone tell me what is going on in her twisted little mind? is she fking arround or really is into me? course of action?
without seeing the interacting between the two of you here are my thoughts,
Salsa can be very social... she enjoys it but isnt dancing because she wants a "relationship"... you flipped right thru atraction and went straight to comfort.. thats why she is comfortable with you staying in her spare bedroom, but even if she is giveing you some indicators that she likes your or finds you interesting/attractive... she is also making it very clear that she has a BF and is not interested in pursuing that type of relationship with you.
I would put this one solidly in the LJBF department, consider her a fun friend that you can take to salsa and have a good time hanging out with/add to social circle.
JMT,
Lucky
CHAT