Hey, not sure where a question like this goes, but anyway:

Everyone knows about going thru her little games at the beginning and thru that whole uncertainty thing before you really spend time with her and get to know her...
The whole "pursuit" stage before a relationship starts

So what I'm trying to get some clarity on are the differences between:

Pursuing her in an alpha male "go getter" "part of who I am" (etc) way,

versus

Looking like one of those guys that girls see as "omg he wont leave me alone," "I would never date a guy like that" etc

Here's an example:
A girl that seems to always be busy and its difficult to find a mutual time to meet up, since I have a busy life too. She says something like "you have to catch me on my days off" I would contact her for the following week, and we seem to consistently have conflicting schedules, I'm probably just going to drop her, but how would a girl perceive me asking every week to see if she's free?
Persistent in a good way? I would like to portray that I have many options and obviously not focusing on her, but how would that be done in a situation like that?

I understand it comes down to mostly inner game stuff, and after going thru a lot of David D's inner game stuff, I feel I have a majority of it together, although I'm always working on myself.

Personally, I tend not to pursue very long as I get disinterested quickly and I hate wasting time.

Hopefully you all understand what I would like clarity on here, insight is much appreciated!

dont pursue her week after week if its week 2 and this stuff is going on

drop her for a month or two, re-open her, if its still the same crap, its time to move on

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-Dre

If your going to question me, you better have a theory behind your argument.

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."
-Harvey Fierstein

dude, if you are into this chic dont wait a month, in a months time she will prob have a bf, just get her on the phone talking,not texting, come up with something to do....preferably something social like a cool gig with some of your friends ( social proof) ....be way casual in your tone of voice etc, and ask her out, simple as that....if she says yeh then get back on the forum and get some tips, if she says nah, then get over it and start on the next woman, btw you should have a few on the go aswell as this one you are talking about....oneitis is a really bad place to be, dont let her become the centre of your thoughts......you are a man, you have a life and basically you couldnt give a fuck if she says yes or no....its the only way to be .....live this way, you are worth more than this little woman you are chasing.......inner game man

No matter how busy a girl may seem, if she likes you, she will make time for you. It's that simple. Hope that helps

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"...so it goes"

Okay, obviously you did not listen to the example he gave, if he keeps on trying to set up dates with her week after week and its not working out, you will come off a a chump, why the fuck would someone who has allot of women to choose from be pursuing you week after week?

He said that he attempted to set up a date and their schedules do not match up,

What the fuck do you mean in a month she will have a boyfriend? whats so different now and a month from now, she might be dating several guys, but guess what, shes doing that right now... Unless you have a license to tell the future i believe you should keep the assumptions on the down low,


Just keep what i said earlier in mind, hope it works out for you

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-Dre

If your going to question me, you better have a theory behind your argument.

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."
-Harvey Fierstein

Thanks everyone. Yeah I've decided it's best to just move on, if I run in to her again, then we'll see.