Hi there guys,

here's the story.

Two months ago I met a girl at a party, I facebook closed her after dropping her off at home. Convo was good, but no attraction... I think.

I saw her when going out last saturday. Was getting a few IOI's but nothing solid, she told me that she was still looking for a job.

Now I have people in my network that could at least be a step up or reference for her... a director at a company I know told me he was interested in seeing a resume.

If I get a chance to help people out by using my business network, I will, I would do it for any friend. As a rAFC of course I know this gets me closer, but could also get me far out in the LJBF zone if I don't play it out right.

Anyone know how I could get her to return the favour romantically?

Thanx Greetz

Buccaneer

I think it is a bad way to start. You've know her for a while and so far nothing romantic. Adding the job angle is just gonna ruin any spark. Women hate men who are friends and help them.

I don't know. But if I was in your shoes and really was interested in her, I'd persue her, but just drop the whole "maybe I can help you with a job" thing. I wouldn't mention it at all. If she's really into it, let her persue you over the stupid job. Don't make it easy at all. Make her basically beg.

But the fact is,, she''s probably not even that worried about the job. So quit talking about that and start talking about which restruant you're going to take her to to work through a couple bottles of wine.

Get off the job thing and get onto some seduction. Make your move now. You're really going to look lame if you wait forever.

Good luck!

Heh. I was going to give the exact opposite advice from nightrider. There are lots of women in the world and you can seduce any of them, but opportunities to help a friend aren't quite so common. Even if it were guaranteed to ruin your romantic prospects with her (which it's not), I say you should help her find a job. To me, this is an opportunity to actually BE high value.

Try looking at this from the holistic self-improvement angle. You'll be enhancing your professional network. (Don't think of it as calling in a favour from the people in your network. You're providing them with a qualified employee; and if she appreciates the job, she becomes another node in your network.)

Obviously, I understand that you don't want to be LJBF'd, but I think you stand to gain more by helping her out professionally, in this instance. It might not be exactly what you want, when you want it, but try to think long-term and big-picture here.

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