Known to be the most socially lubed up place.

Yet I struggle.

I went to a club on Wed night with a fellow sarger (it was our first time together, ahem yes). I am a week into this, and still trying to condition myself and love myself enough to let others love me. Tbh, I am loveable, I have good things going for me, work, comfy money, bright future, lots of travelling. So this is something I need to work on.

Anyways, I did figure out a few things that I was having trouble with last time I was out, and I think this is where I definitely struggle, 75% of time, all the time (courtesy Anchorman):

- I have got a simple opening, some banter line, even a simple hi. Yet, I struggle to carry on the conversation beyond that if the other party is either unresponsive, simply shunning me off, or not as full of energy as I am.

- In terms of convesation topics, I am great if you wanna talk about Philosorphy, psychology, people in general or anything generic. Yet I struggle with club talk.

- The noise level in a club hinders a successful approach, for me anyways, unless all you aim to do is get uber-close to someone's ear.

- I am not naturally alpha, but can now successfully show a confident exterior, with an inner game to boot. Yet an unresponsive set really pulls me down. I dont mind if she says Fuck off, atleast she said something. What bothers me if someone asks me to repeat the same thing over and over again (I still blame the loud music). My struture is such that what I say tends to lose value the next time, or I tend to be much more held-back and rather annoyed if I have to repeat somehting. There isnt much issue with my accent or pitch, its just one of those things.

- I get bored to easily, unless the other person is responsive. So much so that one time, I was watching test cricket instead of talking to a polish HB9. Herein lies another problem, I dont like opening more than one sets in tandem, just feel like I am doing unjustice to current set. Need to learn to walk away.

In summary, my problems (as far as I can see) are:
> Lack of conversation feel against unresponsive sets.
> Lack of club talk
> Noise in clubs
> Lowered confidence due to situations
> Lack of interest in uninterested parties
>> Not great dancing skills, I can rave, but not dance exquisitely
>> Never pulled in a club, or ground (past tense of grind...right?) against a girl (unless my ex counts?). I am not a natural grinder.

Ahem...so yea, thats end of lesson 1 in retrospection.

Any useful notes?

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