Q: Is it over? If not, what are some routines, lines, texts, or anything that you could think of that will get me back on the podium with this bird. This is really dragging me down (FUCK ONEITIS - never again). I will be so thankful... seriously.

I am really into this HB9 that I was hooking up with heavily before break. We hung out all the time. In fact, the last thing she said to me after a kiss was “I am going to miss you.” The two of us departed away from college and back to our hometowns after that.

So I come back to school and run into her a few times…

1) The first time she is with her best friend in the dining hall. I know she sees me. I think I saw her walk faster at this point and I think she told her gf “OMG move fast.” I eventually catch her attention when she passes me later and her eyes blew up like a deer in headlights (surprised as shit). She came in awkward even though I wasn't.
2) A day later or so she sees me in the street and hugs me because she acknowledged that I noticed her. She says that she wants to hangout. We make loose plans to go clubbing. I got sick, so I told her that the only thing I was drinking that night was soup.
3) We have a lot of mutual friends. I run into her gf at the dining hall and start a casual conversation with her and the other girls that I was chilling with. She tells me that HB9 is going to show up. I notice that HB9 comes to meet her gf and she was directly standing FUCKING behind me w/o saying a word. A little later I make an effort to hug her when I see her getting a drink. I invite her to a party that I was throwing. She actually said “Don’t throw it Saturday, throw it Friday. I told her that was the plan. The day before the party I text her drunk out of my mind - “which you doin?”, but she NEVER RESPONDED. She accepted the invitation on facebook, but never showed up.
4) I saw her outside. I was on my cell phone and I saw her out of the corner of my eye. This time I didn’t want to initiate the conversation. I wanted to see what she would have done. She completely passes me without saying a word. WTF!

You have to understand. This girl was really into me! I don’t understand how she could just drop all those feelings and act so cold and distant towards me.

Reasons why this might be…?
1) I had several chances to fuck her, but I didn’t because I either wanted to be social at a party of mine, I had whisky dick, or because she passed out (AKA I was a big fat pussy). In the back of my mind I didn’t want to act easy because I didn’t want to seem like most guys (I know - stupid). SHE EVEN TOLD ME THAT SHE WANTED TO FUCK ME - I made some excuse and left the room because I knew I had that whisky dick and she’s not the girl that would suck your dick. I guess I treated her almost like a gf instead of a fuck buddy, which I’m guessing she wasn’t feeling. She has had sex with only 3 guys and she wanted me to be her 4th.
2) She might not want to start anything serious because she is going away from college next semester for work.
3) I am guessing her friends persuaded her just to have a good time, while they could. Those girls are the type of girls that love to party and never get tied up because they are obsessed with one another. I know my oneitis would always choose her gf’s over any guy.

this girl sounds like a game player and you gotta ask yourself if you really want the drama and the time and stress it takes to learn how to manipulate her.

i'd suggest getting out a pen and pad and asking yourself what life and this girl would be like if you were still with her 5, 10, and 25 years from now. what would life be like if on your deathbed you had or hadn't gotten with this girl. this is a seemingly trivial exercise, but the intention is to get some perspective. see you are so wrapped up in the situation, that you are placing too much importance on it, and stressing yourself out.

if you want this girl you should start picking up other women in and out of her presence. this is the best way to get her and the best answer in my opinion. not only will it create jealousy if she likes you, but it will also show you that there are many fish in the sea, improve your pua skills, and instill confidence.

BTW- the next time a girl says they wanna fuck you, i'd fuck em. to not do so, makes you seem less than alpha.

I've dealt with this before. Basically, you waited too long, and this girl is all fucked up.


Girls are ridiculous, and I wouldn't beat yourself up over it. There's no reason for her to have done this, it's her own fault. She's a wack job, and now you have to treat her like one. How would you treat anybody else who pulled something like this on you?

The Frame: wtf is wrong with you?

Isn't that how you feel anyways?

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sorry didnt read most of your post, but if its oneitis with a hot ass hb, trust me bro i lost a few good years and myself with oneitis, but ofcourse theres only one way up and thats up, i came up with one thing to help me rationalize this "if shes going to keep going, with no regard to me, thats cool, ill do the same thing, she doesnt care well it would only be obvious that i dont give a fuck"
Im me bro and im the best, that should be everyones thinking

So I take it it's over, but deep down I think a lot of it has to do with her friends. I'm always nervous I am going to run into her. What should I do if I see her?

- I really appreciate the advice

So one of my best girl friends found out the deal btw. HB9 and I. Apparently she came back from break and had sex with this jacked ass football player. She also told my friend that she still has feelings for me, but she is not going to hook up with more than one person at once. I heard she was asked out by the football player, but turned him down because she wasn't down for a relationship.

I was thinking of hanging out with other girls at a party and making her a little jealous. I am just afraid I won't be able to find anyone hotter than her. I am not 100% sure she will be at this party.

I need someone to give me some detailed answers on how to proceed and some things I can say (text, facebook, phone, in person.... w.e). I will give all the points I have and no doubt give you my full respect if anyone can help me get this girl to choose me over this jacked football player. FUCK those football players. I can't even tell you guys how much I would appreciate it.

I'd say chill. Keep your space. You do have an "in" man, don't spoil it by "talking about things". Don't look like a wuss.

Don't worry,,, the opportunity will present itself. Just be ready to jump on that.