I have a hard time changing the course of a conversation of friends. Last night I was with some people who were reminiscing on the past (which I was not a part of). They weren't all close friends but they had stuff to talk about.

I kind of froze up in terms of getting a routine or story telling going. They seemed more interested in talking about their shit.

I lost my interest in them and thier conversation (which is no good cuz i DEF did not loose my interest in fucking one of the girls) so my energy level went down and I talked less which put me in an even worse spot for being the center of attention or getting any type of routine I know going.


Any advice?

The sticking point you are describing is called being out of state.

Ever had those nights where you're just on? You're super social, you and your friends are having a great time, you never run out of material to talk about, and any sort of social anxiety you felt is gone? That's called being in state.

Did you also notice that when you were in state, you could talk about almost anything and it was totally fine? You could say and/or hear shit that wasn't even funny and people would still laugh their asses off?

It takes deep inner searching to do this, but you need to figure out how to get yourself into state as consistently as possible. Its often a matter of having a positive self image, coming from a mindset of abundance, and having a willingness and desire to have fun.

Often times, the only unique quality of a natural is their ability to get into state easily. In fact, if you look at your more popular friends, I'd be willing to bet that they are not only able to get into state easily, they are able to trigger it in others. That's why people like them.

yeah. I'm broke right now and I haven't had money to go out much so I've been feeling shitty.

I guess I have to get out of that. thanks

any more advice directed toward changing the subject when people seem really set on one topic?

How about "Hey guys, lets change the subject."?

Sometimes the best strategy is to just be a man.

yeah ok