Ok, I met this hb9 that I really like at a party a year or so ago and I was in a wheelchair. About a month ago I was on myspace and saw her on my boy's friends list so I wrote her out of the blue not mentioning ever meeting her before but as a new person. Well she is good friends with my boy's gf and she told my friend and his gf that "some really cute guy wrote her on myspace" and that I was one of his friends. He told his girl not to mention my disability. We've started talking a lot on the phone and online and I've been in Detroit this whole time but am about to move home and she can't wait to meet me. I am no longer in a wheelchair but I walk with braces and a walker like an old person and it is unlikely that I will recover anymore use of my legs. I never should have started this on the pretext that I was "normal" but it felt good to actually have a hb interested in me. I don't know what to do; I guess I'm going to lose her either way

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Firstly, if u need any more help in regards to disability and PU, PM me, i do actually have a disability myself and it doesnt affect me.

On to this specific problem, as with most things its a case of if it bothers you it will bother her. Now i would be naive to tell you that you have to accept it and just get over it, because obviously that isnt something to easy to do.
All you can do is try and accept that it isnt going to change and you can either get on with it or stop enjoying life.
I know that sounds harsh but let me go on, many people on this forum have complaints like "i am to tall" or "i am a little over weight". Now, with all respect to them those problems they are either in their head (being tall is good 9/10 times) or they can easily be solved (assuming its not a medical reason for being oer weight). Unfortunatly, a disability cant be changed; ever. That really only leaves you with two options, make it work or stop living the way you want to.

I am also not going to tell you that it wont affect how women see you. Looks DO matter at the start. But only at the start. The main things you will put across before you open your mouth will be:
Sympothy
Needyness

There is however an advantage from this, you would have to meet 1 hell of a megga bitch to get blown out rudly. Now before i get flamed for telling you this, your delt a hand of cards and its not what they are its how you use them.
No women (especially in a social enviroment) will blow you out of set rudely or anything, could u imagine how she would look to people who dont know you? "omg, that poor disabled guy was just saying hello, can u beleve she told him to fuck off?". That just wont happen.

Now, as for this girl you just have to tell her. You cant not tell her unless you stop associating with her. Now, how you tell her is VERY important. This is something you can actually DHV. I mean really well. Getting through something like a disability and keeping your life fun/exciting etc is something that many people cant do. Its life changing.
Key things to cover while telling her about it:
You thought u used to have problems, then something happened
You thought it was all terrible then realised
Now you can get through things really well
etc etc i think u get the idea.

Hope that helps, feel free to PM me if you want to know more

Madals

Don't let the fact that you have a disability get in your way. There's a motivational speaker called Sean Stephenson who is majorly disabled and has still led an incredible life.

Watch this video --> http://ca.youtube.com/watch?v=inepgJqH5EQ <--

You said she can't remember meeting you/you were a new person and she likes you.. Then she likes you for who you are as a person and your personality, rather than your physique.

I say go for it. If she isn't understanding about your disabilities, then I say she isn't a person worth knowing.

-Dro

As soon as I saw the word disability in the thread Mr Stephenson instantly came to mind. Watch not just one video of him but a whole bunch, he is really great.

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from the point of view of a non-disabled person, if you want to tell her b4 meeting her (I think you probably should) try working it into some context other than "I should mention I'm disabled." I knew a girl who was half deaf, I didn't realize it till we were trying to dance to loud music and it interfered with her hearing aid, and the fact that I didn't notice really impressed me. You want to minimize feelings of sympathy or awkwardness, and emphasize your ability and resilience. Try to make it an accident of conversation that she finds out, do not linger on it too long.

Dude, why would it matter at all you're on crutches? As long as the Johnson is ok, yeah?

I shattered my heel in Iceland, and was on crutches for the better part of a year. They did FUCKING WONDERS for my PU game, I swear the girls just swarmed me some of the time.. One of the most memorable compliments I have ever gotten in my life was during this period. I was at a club concert with some girls, and I offered to get a girl a drink (I normally dont do this, but she had bought me several plus I wanted to show off some). Obviously she was surprised and tried to stop me, wanting to go to the bar for me, but I skipped away thru the crowd before she could react (I got real good on crutches, my upperbody improved vastly, but yeah it helps to have one good leg) and returned soon after with two beers, one in my hand, the other in my mouth gripped in my teeth. She took them smiling and told me "Oh my god, you are the gazelle of all cripples."

Anyhow... seriously its all in your own head, man. Set your frame, fix your ingame. Being handicapped is just a great way to show the ladies that you can and will push thru adversity. It builds great value.

As for telling her before hand, who cares? Seriously, its not like she isn't going to notice and be embarassed. And you definitely shouldn't make a big deal of it. Just wink and promise her everything "else" works. Then laugh and carry on, convince her that its no problem, you didnt even think of it, and you will just reak of confidence Seriously.

Reminds me of another time, I danced with this girl all night, she was a solid 8, beautiful eyes.. and I mean we danced and talked and danced... so I am walking her home, for the f-close... and she says "oh, I should tell you... I only have one leg." Of course I laugh, I mean, we are walking down the sidewalk.. but she knocks her leg and sure enough, its prosthetic! I think I just said, "COOL!" and "Holy crap, I had NO idea!" and then worked it into lots of jokes about her being the bionic woman and all the super powers she must have. Turns out, having only leg makes for some really great sexual positions. You can do it laying face to face on your sides, which is pretty much impossible otherwise...

I have a friend with spina bifeda (sp?). He's confined to a wheelchair. He is probably one of the most outgoing/alpha people I know. Of course he has insecurities, everyone does. But watch him at a bar and chicks are sitting in his lap, etc. It's like ultimate peacocking. NOBODY is normal. Don't let your disability be a negative, turn it into a positive.