I'm talking to this girl online, and she keeps sending me positive signals.. but she also won't stop mentioning her boyfriend. I'm not sure I'm that interested in her, but this boyfriend thing is starting to feel like a hoop she wants me to jump through. And I hate hoops. So far I've dealt by it by just ignoring the boyfriend parts.. hey, she hasn't displayed enough value that I'm sure that I even want her as a friend yet, so why should I care that she has a boyfriend? I know my worth and she's by default without value But it keeps cropping up, and I'm just wondering if any of you guys have a tip or two about how to deal with this kind of situation in an "alpha" way.. after all, it might happen again with a girl I actually care about.

go to explorehumanity.com, signup for a bootcamp and ask aboutboyfriend destroyers, this is an ishue that only a uru can help you with cuz it might happen many timesoverur PUA journey.

I know a bit about boyfriend destroyers, and I imagine I could run one or two on this girl if I wanted. The thing is, I don't think I really want to. I'm not sure I want her anyways... And I think it's a bit immoral to try a boyfriend destroyer just for the practice. I'm more concerned with keeping my frame. When she keeps telling me that she has a boyfriend, the spontaneous answer that comes to mind is "well, why should I care? It's not like you've shown me anything I'm particularly attracted to anyways. You're just another fish in the sea"... While true, this does NOT feel like an alpha/PUA way to handle it

Have you met this girl in person? Does she live close to you?

So she mentions her BF. Either she really dont want to cheat on him but then again you get all these signals. Otherwise you would already be in the LJBF zone.
More likely. She has a BF, she is attracted to you, she just dont wanna be seen as a slut. Anti-Slut Defense!
She needs to keep it quiet, nobody can know.
Shes probably willing to get dirty with you but not to leave her BF. Fuck her but be prepared to accept an ONS or a short term realtionship.

Agreed. That's the case here. She is really fishing for it not to be 'her fault' if she ends up in bed with you. that ASD thing. Personally I don't go for taken girls. (They go for me, though, unfortunately.)

No, just some random chick that I chatted with online. Like I said, it's not a big deal or something per se... I'm new to PUA and still trying to establish a good frame in general. And this is the first thing that has actually given me some pause.

Hehe guys... didn't you read my post? As things stands now, I don't want her. I just wanna keep my frame. And I seriously doubt that trying to fclose every chick that pulls this on me is a good way to go

So yeah.. I guess I'll just ignore the boyfriend parts until she qualifies.. and if she doesn't I'll just stop talking to her IF she does qualify and I decide to go for it I guess I'll do a "ooh, we're secret lovers" kind of thing.. get her into conspirational mode But I seriously doubt that will happen. I don't really like messing around with taken girls.. I was just chatting with her for practice

Err, are you saying no to a perfectly decent girl. Your loss. Just send her our way...
No, seriously, just be alpha, kiss her, make out with her and tell her, hey didnt you have a BF? Let her deal with that. And keep going like, well you gonna have to step it up if you wanna get dirty with me.

Ezo

bro first thing is first, MEET THIS GIRL, you never know she could be fake, now a days that does happen and your wastin your time stressin over something you dont know if you want of not

i would say MEET, DECIDE, CLOSE/TRASH

First of all I'd like to thank all of you for your input. It's good to have you guys around!

And now, down to business

Ezoghoul: I'm not gaming to find a "perfectly decent girl". I'm gaming to find hot, sex-crazed women with awesome personalities and stimulating intellects Why settle for mediocre when you can have anybody? If you play the game tight enough, that is (which I'm working on). So far, this girl isn't even interesting enough for further practice. No disrespect, but I don't think she's worth the effort.

I'm not stressing out about anything. I'm just playing around, and wanted some frame/mind set pointers. Got two (with a possible third) dates and some night club sarging set up this week, so I'm good. I need to have a life besides gaming and sarging too, you know If I never talk to her again it's her loss, not mine.

clutch83: I see your point man, and it's a good one too. But I don't think I care enough about her to find out. Anyways, we'll see what happens.

+1


She keeps mentioning her boyfriend... so she's likely not going to get rid of him anytime soon.

I think she keeps mentioning her boyfriend to give you a hint that she is taken. It is hard to do over the internet because you aren't talking to her in person. I would suggest restraining from trying to keep a normal conversation going online and meet up with her if possible otherwise she is not interested.