I know this sounds conceited, but just about every first or second date I bring a girl back to my place. I am everything most girls say they want plus I do the good body language and confidence taught by this community. The problem then becomes they see my place (Very nice place in the heart of NYC). I'm a graduate from a top tier MBA and I make well over 6 figures (NO I don't tell them any of this...not even that I have an MBA) I'm a good looking dude - not greek god studly, but I played soccer all my life, played at a collegiate level and throughout Europe. I have a great body and my looks have rarely been a turn off for girls. At the very least they think I am cute and I am very well groomed. I have a great upbringing and am very respectful towards women, but I still escalate fairly hard. For example, I am touching them right away. Once they start touching me back, I take up even more space with my leg and wait until they just leave their leg against mine. That's when I know I have them hooked. They start to let their gaze hold with mine as they let their leg just rest against mine and they give me that giddy little schoolgirl look when I speak to them.

I look at them longily while we talk and laugh and they KNOW I want them. I smirk. I am confident as fuck. I have so many options, granted I am not excited about having a long term relationship with any of them except one at the moment.

I am sick of constantly being put into the relationship category with girls I know I don't want a relationship with. I want a gorgeous girl that makes me smile every time I see her she's so beautiful to me. Every time I bring a girl home she resists literally EVERYTHING except the goodnight kiss, but can't wait to see me again. I don't have the time to spend going on 2nd and 3rd dates with these girls. I also don't want to compromise the quality of women I bring back. I want a variety and I want to be intimate with them before I decide which ones I truly want. We go out and grab drinks and after the second drink at a second venue, I use the "I know a great place we can grab another drink" strategy and end up at my place.

My question is this: Do you guys have experience where you keep getting stuck in the relationship category despite doing what I am doing. If so, how did you circumvent it. Am I expecting too much? At 30 and dating girls 27+, is this just a fact of life at this point I have to accept? Sure, I have had some quick hook-ups, but literally 90% of the time, I get the "WAHHH Let's take it slow I really like you" crap and end up just dropping them because I don't want a relationship. I don't know what I am doing to even demonstrate I want one.

I know this is firstworldproblems, but shit brah, help me out.

I know this sounds conceited, but just about every first or second date I bring a girl back to my place. I am everything most girls say they want plus I do the good body language and confidence taught by this community. The problem then becomes they see my place (Very nice place in the heart of NYC). I'm a graduate from a top tier MBA and I make well over 6 figures (NO I don't tell them any of this...not even that I have an MBA) I'm a good looking dude - not greek god studly, but I played soccer all my life, played at a collegiate level and throughout Europe. I have a great body and my looks have rarely been a turn off for girls. At the very least they think I am cute and I am very well groomed. I have a great upbringing and am very respectful towards women, but I still escalate fairly hard. For example, I am touching them right away. Once they start touching me back, I take up even more space with my leg and wait until they just leave their leg against mine. That's when I know I have them hooked. They start to let their gaze hold with mine as they let their leg just rest against mine and they give me that giddy little schoolgirl look when I speak to them.

I look at them longily while we talk and laugh and they KNOW I want them. I smirk. I am confident as fuck. I have so many options, granted I am not excited about having a long term relationship with any of them except one at the moment.

I am sick of constantly being put into the relationship category with girls I know I don't want a relationship with. I want a gorgeous girl that makes me smile every time I see her she's so beautiful to me. Every time I bring a girl home she resists literally EVERYTHING except the goodnight kiss, but can't wait to see me again. I don't have the time to spend going on 2nd and 3rd dates with these girls. I also don't want to compromise the quality of women I bring back. I want a variety and I want to be intimate with them before I decide which ones I truly want. We go out and grab drinks and after the second drink at a second venue, I use the "I know a great place we can grab another drink" strategy and end up at my place.

My question is this: Do you guys have experience where you keep getting stuck in the relationship category despite doing what I am doing. If so, how did you circumvent it. Am I expecting too much? At 30 and dating girls 27+, is this just a fact of life at this point I have to accept? Sure, I have had some quick hook-ups, but literally 90% of the time, I get the "WAHHH Let's take it slow I really like you" crap and end up just dropping them because I don't want a relationship. I don't know what I am doing to even demonstrate I want one.

I know this is firstworldproblems, but shit brah, help me out.

I've hit this problem before and had a wing that used to always hit this problem. You have a very attractive lifestyle. Even if you do not tell her your salary, your real estate location screams you are financially stable.

That isn't the big issue here though. You need to escalate sooner. Kiss her before going to your place or else you will hit MASSIVE resistance in the bedroom. I have a rule to always kiss in the first hour of the date, so I go for the kiss at minute 25, minute 40, and the 1 hour mark. (Obviously, these are generalizations of time, but those times are pretty standard).

Instead of thinking getting a lot of kino, start thinking about getting kino at the right time... To reward good behavior. Kino for the sake of kino doesn't do you any good. In fact, too much kino can backfire because you are validating her in a boyfriend-type frame rather than a player frame.

Does all of that make sense?

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Thanks guys. Many I's. ME ME ME!

So you just lean in for a kiss? Any articles you read that you think would be a good mindset when to do it. Do you just do it while shes talking and you just do the look at her eyes -> Lips -> eyes and just look like you are lost in her beauty and then just go for a quick peck on the lips? I hate PDA sooooo much haha, this is such a challenge.

I can see how that's a huge issue I never thought about not kissing before back to my place. Guess I need to push even further.

Really interesting about the using kino just to reward her. Would never have guessed that doing it just to do it would backfire, because it's true, I do it just for the sake of getting her comfortable with my touch. Will definitely give both of those suggestions a try.